When I go to my husband about feeling lonely, he turns it around and tells me about how I never do anything for him?

It's very confusing, I can never get through to him and it's just sad.

Btw he rejects me sexually a lot.

Here's the text I sent him:

You rarely serve me with as happy of a heart as I serve you.

I'm sorry you think I'm a crappy wife but I know that I genuinely try to greet you with love when you come home and for you to say what else do you do for me besides cooking dinner. It's so insulting. I'm always willing to take you food while you're at work and if you ask my to groom your beard I'm there to help. I kept telling you today about how handsome and rugged you were and that I loved you and wanted to have sex with you tonight. I said that in the car. Not to mention when we got home I said I wanted something certain in my mouth.

You told me that my words aren't conveying a deeper love. I don't understand what you want from me. It's not acts of service, it's not sex, and it's not my words. I honestly feel so defeated that you are so blind to how stubborn you are to serve me and how neglected my needs are. It's you who is not hearing me, every time I try to talk about my needs and that I feel lonely you turn it around and make it like well you haven't done anything for me so why should I for you.

And then it's all about how I'm not good enough when I went to you first feeling neglected. Then you act shocked when you finally figure out I wanted to be intimate with you like I never conveyed that to you.

I do a lot for you, I don't understand why my needs are always put on the back burner when I go to you feeling lonely.

What is going on? Why am I so confused? Am I being gaslighted?