I told my husband he acts like a d#ck

Ok long story:

My hubs was watching some show on YouTube and was really into it. Im not too into it cos its like "to catch a predator" and Ive seen that so i wasnt too excited. Plus its ameture filming and a bit repetitive. Anyways Its filmed here on the streets of our city. So one night im cooking n hes sitting watching it and he goes thats over near bla bla street (recognizing something on this show) so I comment back "oh thats crazy". So the next episode is on and i peep over his shoulder (cos hes really acting entertained by this and im like ok whats the fuss?) I comment casually, "that looks like the old car wash where we used to live" and he snaps back "wtf?? U know how many f-ing gas stations are in the city?" Like suuuper over aggressive. I get really hurt n just say i was just making conversation. N from there we kinda dropped it but i was genuinely hurt.

The next day he texted me abt buying groceries online. We had talked abt it briefly the night b4 but hadnt discussed whether to order delivery or pickup. So he texts "order the groceries and ill pay" thats it. So i ask "ok do u mean for delivery or pickup?" Again, he gives an overly aggressove answer like we never discussed pickup bla bla bla wtf are u talking about...etc...so i just text back "k" and he starts asking what thats supposed to mean. I write a long response explaining i just wanted a clarification cos ur msg was confusing and im getting frustrated cos you keep talking down to me for no reason and it hurts my feelings. I specifically said "im not sure if u are doing it on purpose but lately youve been acting like a bit of a dxxck to me. It started the other night and now today after a simple question"..... Well that set off a whole day of him ignoring me. He came home n just stayed on his phone. So i just went about my routine and bathed and put baby to bed at 7 as usual. The next morning i woke at 7 (i feed baby and tend to him throughout bthenight every night so husband

can sleep), follwed my routine feed baby and start my workout until babies nap time. While im working out hubs comes out of the bedroom (i guess he decided to skip work) and picks baby out of his bouncer and takes him to the bedroom to play. I finish working an hour later and ask him if hes going to do babys nap? Which he does without speaking.

Baby wakes up and im showered and ready for his walk. I reach down saying we are going for a coffee...and my husband snatches baby and starts shouting I dont let him spend time with his son. Im SO confused. And i get mad cos this is so not true. He works everyday and comes home plays candy crush and eats and goes to bed. I literally have to beg him half the time to help with baby. He is the one who says hes always tired. I do all feedings, naps, baths, changes and he sits on the couch. I take up all the work and i dont complain cos i know he has to work and is always tired. So is it my responsibility to push him to spend time?? I dont think so. He has many opportunities between coming home and bedtime. He could do bath, dinner, change, story...but he is "tired". So its so strange he now accuses me of keeping his son from him????

He yelled and screamed telling me im a bad mother, that im a fat pig, who should go get a drink (ya he knows all my struggles with addiction (im 65 days sober) and weight) this hurt the most. I tried telling him that but he still makes it about him. He kept taunting me and yelling things like hes not your side of the family etc etc...Apparently i keep his kid from him cos i follow a routine. If he read one fucking book hed realize the only reason he sleeps is cos i follow a routine.

Its been 3 days. And im at a point where Im just trying to keep my head together for my baby. I just want him to be safe from this kind of mess. Im broke after paying my bills and honestly would LOVE nothing more than to use his debit card to buy a huge slice of cake while hes at work (he has it saved on my uber eats app). He is the only one working so of course he played the "youre so broke" card with me too. But then who knows what craziness would happen if he found out. Sighhh. Oh ya the groceries? He didnt buy them. Ive been eating oatmeal and whatever bits of leftovers are still in the fridge. According to him I should get them myself.

Its funny cos usually im the person whos in the wrong

usually the one apologizing to him. But this time the tables are turned. I feel sad disappointed and disgusted. I love him but idk how much love i have to tolerate this.