Should I be a more Submissive wife???

Question

What would you think or feel if your husband told you that each time you,  " challenge me about a situation, you make me really angry" so angry to the point where he says hurtful things because he's hurting that you challenged him? 
Question is. ..should I simmer down & be a more submissive wife and let him lead us thru this stressful situation  to keep the conflict down or... continue to voice my opinion and continue to anger him.
I just don't know, I'm confused, irritated & hurting, any advice will help

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No, your opinions on how to act in a situation are as valid as his. Both of you need to listen to each other and hear both sides. He is in the wrong by telling you to completely step aside.

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No. Why should you hold yourself back over someone's insecurity and plain idiocy and lack of respect? One of the best things about a relationship is to challenge each other and stimulate each other intellectually, communicate and be on each other's teams, no matter what.

Please don't question the validation of your thoughts and feelings like that, your opinion matters. If you wanted to be a submissive boring little wifey straight from the 50s who worships him unconditionally you would've met at an s&m club, so, his problem. Not yours.

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Sounds harsh, but maybe he's not your right match. It's not fair for him to change his natural personality (unless he's abusive), just like it's not fair for you to change yours. There are men that enjoy being challenged and actually value women's opinions.

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No he should not expect you to just hold your tongue and keep your opinions to yourself. Communication is a two way street. So both of you should voice how you feel. It's sad that he gets angry when you challenge him or don't feel the same way. No one was made to be submissive to anyone, no matter what the gender is. Unless that is your personality type already, you have no reason to start acting that way.

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Also, send him a text tomorrow that says thank you for working so hard. Just that. That to a husband is like a 6 text love note to a woman. Lol

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God created a wife to be "submissive" to her husband. NOT in a bad way but for the husband to be the leader. I guarantee if you ask him to lead you and show him you love his opinion, and help when needed he will love you so much more and things will get better. It's really hard to let go but after awhile it'll be easier and you'll find that you are happier.

Should I be a more Submissive wife???

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