What would you think or feel if your husband told you that each time you, " challenge me about a situation, you make me really angry" so angry to the point where he says hurtful things because he's hurting that you challenged him?

Question is. ..should I simmer down & be a more submissive wife and let him lead us thru this stressful situation to keep the conflict down or... continue to voice my opinion and continue to anger him.

I just don't know, I'm confused, irritated & hurting, any advice will help