Am I weird? 6m pp, still no sex

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I feel embarrassed, but my LO is 6 months today and my husband and I still didn't have sex. Not that he doesn't want. And the idea of doing it I like as well.
But two things:
1) when baby finally sleeps at the end of the day I'm just tired on the sofa, almost falling asleep.
2) I had a bad tear and a lot of stitches and am still very sensitive down there where the scars are. 
Tell me, is there anybody else that is in the same boat or am I just the only terrible wife?
Ps: Posting anonymously because I'm feeling so ashamed..

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Only have had sex twice in the past 6 months. We are too tired.

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Same boat. We tried two times without proper lubricant and didn’t succeed, and the third time penetration was painful, and my husband didn’t last very long, so we were like two virgins all over again. 
We are exhausted and bed sharing with babe so it doesn’t inspire a sexy mood. Also, even on occasion, I find myself bored during a sexy scene in a TV show bc I am that far from being in the mood. The desire comes and goes, which is way different from before I had a newborn! 
You aren’t alone!

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I have a few times mainly just to shut my husband up. I’m terrified of getting pregnant again and honestly have no sex drive (can happen with breastfeeding). Also hate my post partum body and have literally lost 0 lbs since I gave birth so not feeling like having someone all over me.

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Same. We waited six months after our first and now our second is six months and we haven’t. I had a repeat c-section but penetration hurts anyway, so I am super anxious about having sex.  I am also breastfeeding and I worry about leaking and it being weird to keep my bra on and not be touched there because breast play is not the same for me since having kids. Plus my abdomen is destroyed from stretch marks. And totally agree on being just too tired. In addition to the 6mo old, we have a 2.5yr old and we teach fully in person every day. I went to bed at 9:30 last night.

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Not alone

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I hear what you are saying! It is tough with the little ones, and I EBF so the drive isn’t there all the time. 
I will say that as women we have to take care of ourselves, after all the chores have some “me time” for whatever suits you in order to feed your soul so that you have something to give again.  If I can have like 5-10 minutes of just free time to do my nails or hair or makeup or something that is “me time” I do feel more “in the mood”. Because yeah when I’m tired and have kids hanging all over me all day and finally get a chance to lay down and hubby tries to spoon I want to like elbow him right in the face!  But yeah just a little “me time” and I am into it. 
And I would also add to all the women who don’t feel sexy, you ARE SUPER sexy!!!  So you don’t look like the Victoria’s Secret models right now, so what?  Your bodies created a life!!  Own it!!

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I also did this with my first... terrified to get pregnant again and also had a 3rd degree tear. With this one I wasnt successfully able to stave him off lol

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Don't be ashamed!!! I don't blame you at all!!! We've only had sex 2x in 5 months and I feel fine 😬. You'll get there.

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Way too tired in the evenings but we try and make time at the weekend when our son has his afternoon nap.
I didn’t have a tear or stitches but it’s still not right down there and hurts sometimes. I find lots of lube helps as well as me on top so I’m in control of the movement & speed

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Only done it twice. Who has the energy?!

Am I weird? 6m pp, still no sex

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