I gotta start off with the backstory by saying I'm on husband number 2. Husband number 1 was an emotionally and mentally abusive person who also sent our baby to the hospital when she was an infant. He made me want to commit suicide every day and he would threaten to hit me when I was pregnant (though he never did during that time). We even went to multiple marriage counselors who would tell him that he needed to work on his anger and his not treating me as more than his servant but when he didn't like hearing it he would make us switch counselors.

I found comfort in another man (my current husband) just before my first husband became violent but I was still married technically. His violent episodes had nothing to do with my current husband as he didn't know yet. I was so broken and hurting and my current husband was the only bright spot in my life at that time. I had a temporary restraining order from my first husband and filed for separation shortly after but it takes a year to get divorced where I am if there are kids involved.

During our separation is when he found out about me and my current husband.

Anyway we are divorced now and everything has settled down a bit on that front but my friends are now hurting me. They are very firm christians and they do not support me and my current husband because of the adultery no matter the circumstances at the time. I am not very religious.They told me they can't trust me anymore and feel like I'm a liar. They don't like my husband either for his part in all of this. They shut me out for weeks and said horrible things to me.

But my current husband is amazing. I truly truly never believed I could be as happy as I am now living with him. He is a fantastic stepdad to our daughter and takes such amazing care of us. He makes sure I am keeping on top of my mental health (as I am dealing with depression and anxiety) and is so supportive of my career and does so many chores around the house without complaint or me nagging.

My friends have slowly started to reach out to me to talk about things but I don't know what to do about them. Should I apologize to them? I just don't understand why it should hurt them so much? I am finally not suicidal and am optimistic for the first time in 7 years. But now I feel like I'm losing 10 year friendships with my core friend group. What do I do? Do I let them go or do I apologize to them and try to work it out?