Do you think it's right to put terms and conditions on your S.O. to have another baby?

Question

I've been ready to have another baby for a while now and my husband is putting terms and conditions on me saying if I do this or that it'll happen but I feel it's wrong if he truly loves me. wouldn't he just have another baby with me? He's said this before and I've done them but nothing ever happens I am hurt and heartbroken idk what to do I feel hopeless and like I have zero control we have one daughter and all I want is two kids is it really so much to have one more? I just need some support and advice on this situation. I feel like I am in complete despair and I am depressed.😭😭💔

Accepted Answer

Without knowing what those terms and conditions are, it's impossible to say.
Some are extremely reasonable, like "don't do drugs while pregnant or breastfeeding". Some aren't, like  I expect you to lose all your baby weight within a month of giving birth".
So they can be right, or not depending on what they actually are.

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It really depends on what the conditions are so I can't really give an opinion since you didn't tell us what the conditions are

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I feel like I need to know what conditions he's saying to form an opinion on the situation

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It depends...
If he says "look, if you dont make me homemade enchiladas and have a threesome with me every week then no baby" then he is wrong. ❌
If he says "look, if you dont stop doing meth every day then no baby", then he is right. ✅
Threesome and enchiladas = a$$hole
Banning meth habit = hero

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You both need to have a talk about this. Sounds like you have a agreement that he will work and you will clean the house and watch the baby. Except he doesn’t feel you have been upholding your end with the cleaning portion. If you can’t tackle the cleaning with just 1 kid you won’t be able to handle it with 2. I see where both of you are coming from, work on your relationship before discussing baby #2. It doesn’t sound like he is helping you with any of this ethier which is another reason you both need to talk.

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My man works and still helps me with whatever I need and cleans especially if he seeing I’m tired. I have a toddler plus I’m pregnant it ain’t easy. I’d leave him in the house with a raging toddler for a day or two so he could understand just because you’re home doesn’t mean you aren’t doing anything and don’t get tired too.

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What’s he asking? 
Don’t smoke is really reasonable and understandable. 
Don’t paint your nails red is not.

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He’s not wrong. What are his terms?  He’s right to get things established and understood before any child is conceived.

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He wants me to change. He wants me to clean the house more to his standard and I already do so much I pick up after a toddler all day and he doesn't even do the dishes he uses. He says since he works he shouldn't have to help. He wants me to do everything and keep the house really clean but sometimes it's hard with a toddler.

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Depends upon what those terms are.

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