Sex and being a Christian?

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By no means am I perfect. I believe in God, pray everyday, and trying to go deeper into it like I used to be when I was younger. I lost virginity at 16. Long story short my mom found out and now she shames me about it..because of my age, being a Christian etc. I hear it all the time that I’ll feel “dirty” “regret it” guys don’t respect girls who “give in” it’s really starting to give me a complex associated with sex and with being a woman;having urges. With hearing that all the time it’s starting to make me think I’m used goods, or low value of a woman. Is it a sin or am I a bad person because I engaged in sex before marriage? Does God think I am low value? Starting to think my mom does.

Accepted Answer

God values you very much. He loves you no matter what you do. Yes sex outside of marriage is a sin but you can ask God to forgive and not do it again. People think that because they did some wrong the God will not forgive or care about them. When in fact he does. All you have to do is ask.

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Oh honey. If you repent, your sons are washed away and you’re white as snow. The Bible assures us that when we ask God for forgiveness, and really want to change our lives and behaviour, He takes away all our sins. Your mom is totally wrong. Jesus already paid for your sun on the cross. 
Your job going forward once you have repented is to try to live your life in a holy and righteous manner. That means committing yourself to abstinence from now on. 
Listen to me, honey. You’re not less than. You are Gods beloved daughter. You are a sinner, like the rest of us, and like the rest of us you have been forgiven. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than that

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Everybody sins. Christianity like this ‘makes you ruined’ is toxic.

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I know I'm a little later here but wanted to say:
God doesn't consider you worth any less because of anything you've done.
I have struggled with the Church's negative spin on sex and you are not alone in having a complex relationship with it. I know of couples who have waited till marriage only to feel "dirty" after consumating their marriage because sex was considered sin for so much of their lives.
I hope you find peace with yourself, your family and with God. I'm sorry to hear you feel your family think less of you.
God does not. For Love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast. It is not proud. It does not dishonour others nor is ot self seeking. It is not easily angered or keep a record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I hope this was of some encouragement. Blessings.

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I highly recommend you read the book The Great Sex Rescue and Captivating. And the Bible (it's talks a lot about sin and what Jesus can do about it as well as your free choice) 
Sexual activities outside of marriage is a a sin. It is not part of God's plan for sex. He is the one who created sex and marriage and He is God what he says goes. God loves you and He died on the cross for your sins. He is ready to forgive you if you confess and repent (turn away from) your sins. And follow and love His ways not the ways of the world. And if you truly love Jesus you will make every effort to love Him through your obedience. Sex is not a bad thing it was designed to be shared and enjoyed within the love and commitment of a marriage covenant as another way to create a deeper physical emotional and spiritual bond.

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First what your mom sin while she is on sin is irrelevant.  God loves you and doesn't thing you are damage good.  God restores doesn't condem.  It shows you are repentant because you didn't do it again and it let heave on your conscience how to avoided and you care what God has to say about it.  When you repent God cleanse you, doesn't bring your sins back, Jesus died for those sins and your debt is paid in full.  Your mom forgot the passage that warns Christians don't judge less be judge.  She will be discipline for her own sin.  Many people including me made that mistake even if I wasn't so young.  I true man of God won't see you as damage goods, but a restored woman of God.  Learn from God and get close to him and He will show you that man.  God says he has good things for us, he doesn't say only if you don't sin.  We all sin and fall short from his Glory, we all need Jesus including your mom.  Grow in God make your relationship with God your priority that is why e are here.  God bless you.

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Hey dear,
God is love and there's nothing that you'll ever do to change that fact. 
Sweetie, hang in there... finish school, get a job and move out ASAP. 
You need to move away from your mother... away from that toxic info. For now, the best you could do is, try as best as possible to ignore and block out that information.
Never forget, you are loved! 🤗

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You are so loved! Jesus came and showed just how much! He lived the perfect life on your behalf! His blood took care of all your sins! His resurrection secured your own one day! Look FORWARD and forget what is behind! God already dealt with that and anything else you'll do in your life! Just trust in what He Did and go out and act like a forgiven, cleansed beautiful child of the Living King!

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At the moment I can recommend you to bring this situation or your sin to God and ask for forgiveness and wash you clean. Ask also for him to help you abstain from it until you’re married. Maybe also try in future to put God first and get into a relationship with him. It’s a long way that I’d in front of you but it’s not impossible to leave the situation that you’re in. You just have to listen to what God says and act according to the wisdom that He has given you. I understand what you’re mother is saying but it won’t help you to act correct in future. Because it looks like she isn’t helping you to change but making you feel worse so that you will end up feeling unlovable. Yes, you will feel dirty later but when you commit to God fully, it won’t give a chance to change who God has made you to be. All those people that we call the heroes of faith in the Bible had sins and weaknesses but it never stopped them from living the purpose that God gave them. I’m not saying „you can have se* and God won’t care“. He does really care about it. What I’m trying to say is „go and clean the temple that God lives in and don’t repeat“. Also when you repented, stay single to focus on God. Temptation to do it again will/might come but if you live truly for God, you will have the self discipline to not donor again. You are precious and loved by the almighty Father. Just go to Him

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All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. 
God loves and values you so much that He died for you. He hated sin but He does not hate you. He made provisions on the cross and through His resurrection to wash you of all your sins and give you a new life listen to God not your mom

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