I can’t believe I’m actually posting here, but I could use some unbiased opinions. I’ll try to not make this too long but stay with me...

I am currently 40+5 with our second and up until this point we have had names picked out for a while now. (We don’t know baby’s gender, and we haven’t told anyone our baby names) For context, it’ll be important to note that we are Jewish, and traditionally you name children after relatives who have passed. You don’t name babies after people who are still living cause it’s sort of a bad omen- this is why you’ll rarely meet a Jewish person who is a “Jr.”, it’s just not a thing we do.

For this baby, we were planning on naming him/her for both of our paternal grandfathers (Avery William for a boy, Avery Willow for a girl). My grandfather was not Jewish but he was a great man, and frankly/luckily I just don’t have as many dead relatives as my husband, so there were just less names to choose from from my side of the family.

HOWEVER, my other (Jewish) grandfather passed earlier today. It hasn’t really set in yet. We knew it was coming, but no one thought it would be this fast. Because of the timing of him passing LITERALLY as I am about to give birth, I’m wondering if we should change the name to honor him instead. His name started with an S so for a girl we’ve considered Sarah, but haven’t come up with a boy name we like yet. Either way, it would still be the baby’s middle name.

What would you do? I don’t want to hurt anyone in my family’s feelings, but it’s a lot to think about in a short amount of time. Thanks for your help! ❤️