Constipation TMI

i have constipation and yk , pooping hard causes your butthole to rip and it hurtsss , so what can I do other than drink lots of water and take laxatives to keep me from this ? It hurts when i poop like omg .. feels like its ripping even moreeee . What can I put on it to keep it from stinging too ? Ik those who has constipation can relate , and if you don’t please be kind . I just need advice, I been drinking a lot of water but im still constipated.