Do you think, in recent years, parent shaming has...

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So a post from yesterday talking about Tik Tok mental health discourse had an interesting mixture of comments and opinions; while the post itself was focused on trauma discourse and a user made list of seemingly "normal" behaviours that could have potential underlying trauma, this lead to the discussion in the comments of parent bashing/shaming and how as a parent you can't win. 
Do you think nowadays parent shaming has gotten better, as in a lot less of an issue than say the 50s, or gotten worse due to social media/other societal issues? Or do you feel it's about the same?

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Social media is

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I haven’t lived in other generations, but from what my mother has said, things have improved but are also worse. 
No offense, but angry teenagers on TikTok don’t bother or make me feel shamed. I curate my social media so that I feel supported, whereas for my mom she was stuck with a misogynist world and found no one around her who could support her. It was extremely isolating. 
When we were struggling with sleep, I could find literally any infant sleep group that validated what I believed. Something like that didn’t exist 20 years ago. 
Do random strangers on the net get me in my feeling? Definitely, but there’s nothing so isolating as having no where to turn for support.

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Agree with most others. Social media makes everything so much worse. I would gladly go back to not having phones or internet except at home. Social media provides such negative outlooks on literally everything. I can get my kids their favorite pizza for an accomplishment in school, and i would be bashed for feeding them unhealthy food or accused of bribing my children to do well in school. And therefore instilling in them that they are only worthy if they get good grades, and it goes on and on. When i was simply being a good parent. People are so focused on finding something wrong with things, staying relevant, or being right, they forget one of the most important things “live and let live”. Let other people alone!

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Probably the same, but we hear more about it because of social media.

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I think it’s easier to be shamed online vs. in person because so much is shared between people who have built no trust between each other.  
But I don’t think that post from yesterday was shaming.  That list had valid symptoms of co-decency & dysfunctional family/relations.  The term abuse being used generally is debatable, but I’m glad kids are coming into awareness of unhealthy dynamics....I think that tells us parents are doing something right 🤷‍♀️.

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I mean parents may be shamed more, but I’d prefer that over people not questioning a single thing a parent does simply because the parents rule over kids.

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Social media amplifies it for sure but I think it's always there no matter what. Depending on what I post and what platform I post on I get more or less hateful comments about my parenting. I've gotten a lot of really nasty comments in this app especially when my son was younger and I ask asking for advice. Instagram I didn't find as bad. Tik tok isn't something I post on but I see a lot of arguments and backlash over very minor parenting differences. I think it depends on what platforms you use and what you follow. Same thing with real life , depends who you surround yourself with. 
I deleted my social medias besides this and snapchat who I only have very close friends on and even on here I was more active and open but I've definitely stopped talking about my son and stuff because it's overwhelming sometimes the things people will attack you over.

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I don't necessarily think it is that much worse I think like everything else with social media it is just more public. I was raised fairly unconventional and even back then before social media is a ln area with pretty much no internet at any point in my childhood my parents were shamed by people for how they chose to raise us. The difference was it was local people and family and that was it. Now with social media I don't know if it is worse or just more public since a post can have hundreds of people see it. So yes more people will have an opinion. In person I think it is the same, online I think it is larger scale. However for parents who put up public videos of their parenting they are also kinda inviting comments because that is the internet now. In general though people have opinions and some people share them regardless if they meed to be shared or not. That has always been the case and it will never change

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I’ve definitely noticed a change of how things are now from when I was growing up. 
Nowadays parents are getting a lot of backlash for being parents. Teens now are wanting to do their own things, but they need to learn to follow rules just like adults have rules (the law) they have to follow. 
Also people shouldn’t put their parenting style on social media or you will have people who don’t have the same style possibly attack you.

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Yes social media has made people more likely to say what they think because they are behind a screen.
Example: I’m in this FB group that’s called Monster In Laws (lol we can discuss my MIL a diff day).
So this lady writes a post about how her MIL directly did something she specifically asked her not to do while the baby was staying over. Instead of giving her advice for the actual question she asked there were so many like “wHy wOuLd yOu EvEn lEt YoUr BaBy SleEP OuT tHat YoUNG” and started shaming her for that

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