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Sounds like your husband is a shitbag and needs to grow the fuck up.
TMI warning. Hubby's sexual frustration is to much....
I'm 3 weeks c-section post partum and going through biopsies and testing for vulvar cancer. My hubby was set on the 6 week mark before we could have sex again and was coping fairly well with that issue. At my last obgyn check up the Dr. Said he needs to remove the rest of the area to attempt to prevent it from penetrating the layer of skin that allows it to become cancer positive. Which means it's going to be closer to 3 months before I'm allowed to have sex again. Since that Dr. Appointment hubby has become extremely short tampered and is exhibiting more and more signs of extreme sexual frustration. He has taken care of himself a few times but honestly that seems to be making it worse. I'm stressed out between breastfeeding struggles, lack of sleep any where but the couch, the new issues of the cancer issues, and my own sexual frustration, and several other things which makes me definitely not in the mood to help him feel better and leave me hanging but at the same time his attitude and shortness is not helping me feel positively motivated or supported on this journey of caring for our infant and breastfeeding. My milk supply is dropping and our little is getting more and more formula due to this on top of everything else. I need support with everything from somewhere. Has anyone else had these issues or similar?
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The last thing that my husband would be thinking about is sex when I'm undergoing biopsies to prevent vulvar cancer.He'd be freaking out until I was fully healed and got a clear bill of health from my physician.I'm sure undergoing those biopsies isn't a comfortable experience for you...if you can go under the knife, he can suck it up for a few months.
As everyone else has said so far he needs to get over it. It's not going to kill him. He's not in any sort of danger. Your safety and comfort should be his number one priority in the situation. Even after I got cleared up sex after my vaginal birth we didn't for like 3 months because it was so uncomfortable And my husband never once made me feel like s*** about it.
He needs to grow up. His wife can develop cancer, had a major surgery, and taking care of a baby?! Tell him to stop thinking about his dick and more about the reality around him. He sounds like a douche, I can’t imagine having to deal with that on top of all you’re going through. I’d tell my husband to F-off. I’m sorry you’re dealing with all this, hope you heal soon.
He needs to stop stressing you the fuck out, and remove his head from his ass. How the fuck does he think that his sexual needs are the most important thing right now? Jesus you just had a major surgery AND you’re going through a cancer scare.
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He shouldn’t be coming to about that at all, it’s guilting you for something that you don’t have any control over. That’s manipulative. He can take care of himself without letting you know, he’s telling you to make you feel bad. I’m sure my husband jerks off when I’m not in the mood and I’m sure he did when I went partially blind after I gave birth to our daughter. Not once did he mention it, just took care of it and continued caring for his household.
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Just to clarifying he's not pressuring me or even asking for anything. He is significantly worried about me. He is just very short tempered about things that he normally isn't. He takes care of himself physically then comes and tells me later. He approaches the subject as.... "I need to confess my sin.... I had to jerk off earlier to relieve the pressure." I'm feeling guilty in a sense because I don't have the drive to take care of him myself as I have in the past. Also the fact that I've been sleeping on the couch since coming home from the hospital isn't helping any. He has expressed that it makes him feel left out. I have explained that it's because I need him able to rest and care for the baby during the day when I need naps and am unable. He misses me in bed with him at night and I miss being in bed with him at night but baby girl is not having it. She is only sleeping an hour MAYBE 2 hours at a stretch and she's up for a while doing he routine. She's also struggling significantly to adjust to sleeping in her beds. Yes beds plural 1 in each room.
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