Is your relationship based off a fetish or actual love?

We're discussing this in my sociology class....

We talked about black people being a fetish even though I feel the same could be true for other races as well

Tell me what made you choose your partner without describing their appearance

For example my husband is Latino aside from being attractive he is a sweetheart and I really fell in love with his intelligence I learn from him, he's taught me more things than my own family

I would really like to hear your response