So, my daughter is 2 weeks old. I'm a FTM.

My mother has been using odd wording choices that are red flagging with my husband and I. We feel that she thinks her role as a grandparent is much more involved than what we are anticipating, but I need some external opinions!

First off, she posted on Facebook when my daughter was born and uploaded photos I had sent her privately without consulting me. The text in the post said "We are proud to announce the arrival of...". First off, no idea who "we" is meant to be and it's not really your announcement is it?

Then many of the comments were her organising for my baby to meet her friends, again with her wording implying that she actually has any say in where my baby goes and what she does. Seemingly no respect for the fact that my husband and I might be the people to consult on that?

She has seen the baby 4 times since she was born. She was the first family member to meet her. And yet, yesterday she came over and kept saying it felt like so long since she'd seen her and her exact words were "I felt like my throat was cut". She was also annoyed because she was trying, once again to organise outings with my 2 week old baby that don't include me. Saying things like "when I take her to..." and "ill take her to meet..."

Like, no. You won't. Now she is being all salty because I told her I'd like to be there for these meetings. I feel like she's treating my daughter like an accessory and doesn't have respect for the fact that my baby, my husband and I are the "we" here, trying to establish our new life together and routines, etc. When she was here LO was sleeping and she seemed hugely inconvenienced because when she woke up she was hungry and just wanted to feed so I had her on the boob and she didn't get many cuddles. She also keeps saying she wanted to take photos of her with her eyes open for all the people at her work and seemed annoyed that she was sleeping. We have only had 2 days so far with no visitors since she was born and I've told my mother that we need some time to settle, but on her way out yesterday she said "won't be long!" meaning she expects to see her again very soon. Also keeps bringing up "when she's at mine for the night" and stuff like that that just seems presumptuous that she will spend a lot of time with bub.

I'm torn because I want to think these things are just coming from a place of being really excited for the baby, but I'm also still concerned that this behaviour means I might be in for some conflict with my mother in the future to do with my children.

Is this in my head? Sometimes I think I overreact to things my mother does due to the upbringing I had with her, I struggle to give her the benefit of the doubt sometimes.