Helppp

We haven't had sex ever since i had my daughter. Shes 8 months but recently we've started to want to start doing it & well.... it hurts. Like really bad. He cant even get the tip in and I'm flinching in pain. I had a second degree tear, and I'm terrified I'm going to "rip" open again... any angle it hurts and we used a shit ton of lube so I really don't know what to do. Just let him go for it and risk bleeding??? I have no idea. Any advice is appreciated ...