Weekend Disputes

Hi All

My bf and I are having a hard time seeing eye to eye on weekends recently. We both work full time during the week so are pretty tired by the time the weekend rolls around.

I’m not saying I need to sleep in all day but every weekend he gets up and tries to wake me up before 7am. WHY?! I just spent all week waking up at 6am, can I just have a little bit to relax?!

We are 3 years out of college. Have a house, have all credit cards paid off, we’re doing fairly well! On weekends, especially ones like this one when it is 70 and sunny... I want to do fun things outside! We’re in our 20’s.... we should be enjoying life.

But no, all he wants to do is yard work. I understand that stuff needs done but you have to do something enjoyable at some point, it’s all about the balance.

He wanted to do chores yesterday so I was like alright cool, then let’s go to a vineyard or brewery and sit outside to enjoy the weather tomorrow! NOPE. he woke me up at 6:30am to help him with a chore outside.

Then when I mentioned that I wanted to go to the vineyard he got so irritated and said no he wanted to do more work outside.

We haven’t been on a vacation in 4 years (first couple years we were poor in college or right out of college then last year obvi a pandemic). But now we can’t even do fun things on the weekends?!

I don’t want to live my life going to work all week and just doing chores on the weekends. I’m 25 I want to LIVE.

I love him and want to be with him but I’m not sure how to get across to him that he’s being so boring!