Not intimate enough

My husband came to bed last night and asked if I was okay. His mom is in town and I’ve just been exhausted this week from that and being on my period (which seems to be on steroids after having my daughter). I said I was fine I was just extremely tired. He got in bed and asked if he could love me up. I told him I would love some hugs since my period was ending.

Then he said “I guess you don’t want to be intimate then?” To which I said I didn’t because I was really tired and on my period. He told me it had been a really long time since we had been. Then I thought about it and remembered it had just been a week since last Sunday because of visitors and my period. I told him it hadn’t been that long.

So that started the conversation... he says that we haven’t been intimate enough. That I would rather to housework or renovation stuff around the house first. I told him that that hurt my feelings because I was doing all that stuff recently because we had company coming. That I was/am just trying to care for our home. He said that our intimacy should come first and anything else should come second. I told him that I’m exhausted from caring for our daughter. Everything for her is on me and has been since she was born 6 months ago. Which I understand the intimacy to a point it really made getting to sleeping last night hard.

I’m thankful he wants to be with me but with everything that I do, I felt offended that he didn’t feel love because he wasn’t getting it more than a couple times a week or at the very more than once a week (sometimes). I never deny him because I love being with him but unfortunately sometimes it’s literally the last thing on my mind.

How do you balance house stuff, kid stuff and being with your spouse? Sometimes our daughter doesn’t go to sleep until 11/12 because she’s teething and by that time I’m so exhausted from stress/anxiousness that all I want to do is crash.

Any advice is greatly appreciated for this FTM!!