Brothers an ass

So with every sibling relationship it’s basically the same. Someone’s usually starting fights or being a dick

Growing up I’ve always been nice to my brother mostly out of fear cuz he’d beat my ass and just be mean to make me cry and so I avoid that.

But I’m almost 21 and he’s 23 and it’s still the same thing ? Everyone says you grow out of it but he hasn’t yet.

He does invite me to more things w his friends like hikes and sometimes parties but it’s v rare.

I always DD for him even short notice when I’m 3 hours away. I gave him money for rent the other week. I buy him random gifts Ik he will like, I go all out for his bday, im legit broke asf and still helping even when I can’t really afford it.

I’m always nice to him.

Idk what it’ll take for him to be nice to me and just grow tf up.

He always made fun of me if I didn’t fit in so now when I do he tears me down in front of ppl so that I don’t. He’s the reason I stopped talking at family dinners because he’d bully me sm. That transferred to just being quiet everywhere.

He can’t take jokes that are ab him or he’ll ramble off a list of insults until he sees my feelings have been hurt.

He’s a fucking creep rn hooking up w this 18 year old girl

He’s homophobic “but I don’t mind lesbians. Like our cousins are fine ” wtfff.

I could go on n on. Idk what to do. Obviously I got to stop being overly nice w things. And I’ll just start to be civil

I’ve always tried to have a good relationship w him but it just doesn’t work because he doesn’t want it. Idk what else to do but give up and stop wasting my energy.