How to deal with break up?

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I (21) broke up with boyfriend of almost 3 years about a month ago. It still hurts me so much. I'm trying to keep myself busy and just do things that I want but he still crosses my mind very often and my heart hurts. I am trying to let myself take time with recovering but it's also very frustrating to keep feeling like this.
I have only two friends, they are both in other cities and I have no way to visit them. We talk every day, but that's all. I live with my parents and two siblings right now and it's even more stressful.
I tried keeping myself busy, watch movies, read books but it doesn't help me and no matter what I do during the day there is always something that makes him pop up in my head and makes me feel shit. 
Interesting is when I take xanax (dealing with Depression and anxiety since 13yo) my mind gets very clean and I stop being said. I just get very realistic and reasnable and I'm not that sad about our break up. But as soon as it wears off i start blaming myself and being sad again.
I'm genuinly giving my best to recover but I don't know what to do.

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Try exercising? That has helped me with break ups.

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This was exactly my situation too! The last thing I wanted to hear was “time heals” but that’s what everyone was telling me. And now, a year and a half later, I realized they were kind of right. It was a long ass (lonely) time, but now that I look back on it, I can only see the improvements I have made on myself. 
Of course I’m still reminded of him from time to time, we were in love for 3 years. It’s hard to forget someone that has made such a big impact on your life. But use this time to get to know yourself and do things for your own benefit! Then once you meet the right person, you’ll be the best version that you can be and feel deserving of all the love. 
One thing that helped me though was making a cons list! I made a long list of the reasons why we didn’t work out, or things I just didn’t like about him. I would read the list every time I thought about him or wanted to get back together with him. 
I don’t know your exact situation or the reason why you broke up, but it could help you feel better (it did for me anyways 😂)
Much love!

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I understand breakups are incredibly hard. Sometimes it just takes a while usually longer than the heart wants. I think it’s good to go through the emotions I believe it really helps and your heart and body will tell you when you have healed. Good luck I hope you start to feel better sooner than later.

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It’s so hard.. heart break is the HARDEST thing
It’s been so long since I’ve been heart broken but I remember the feeling of my chest caving in and my mom holding me all night every night as I wept 
The only real thing that works is giving it time… just take it day by day… keep doing what you are doing, keep yourself busy, and definitely working out will help.  Don’t keep yourself locked up all day, get out.
❤️❤️

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Wow this seems so similar to me. I'm 22 and broke up with my bf of 3 years a month ago too. I think I'm coping a little better than you because I don't seem so sad about it anymore but I get you on how he crosses my mind sometimes too. I think a factor also is the reason for the breakup. I'm the obe who broke up in my relationship because I fell our of love and I felt like I was taking for granted. Because of that I naturally walked away because I know I deserve so much better. I deletes everything about him. Our texts, convos, pics, vids, etc. And I think that helps a lot. Being sad about it also helps because once you cry it all out one day you no longer have tears left to cry for them. Stay strong dear. Time heal all wounds. And always remember there are millions of guys in the world. It's not your lost.

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