if you've ever been cheated on by your husband, how did you move on?

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I'm asking if you decided to work things out that is, how did you possibly get the idea of him being with another woman out of your head? them touching being affectionate, how did you trust again? 
please only comment if you've been hurt like this by a spouse.

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I am currently working through this with my husband. 
We have couples counselling every week. A 1-1 catchup each month and we have deep conversations every so often. 
It is really hard. I found out in March and I am still so angry that we are not physical at all. (There was 1 time but it was weird)
My husband knows i need time, he understand that i deserve to be angry and we communicate what we need to go forward. 
I've found I have to be very clear about touching. I like a supportive cuddle at night, but I can't kiss him. He understand that I need space, but still don't want to be lonely. These feeling are hard to convey, but communication is key.
He needs to be very open and honest. He needs to be forthcoming with anything about other women, so you feel you can trust him.(As much info as you want)  If you need to track him or view his phone he need to understand it's for you. So you don't have an interal meltdown of what ifs. Because those "what if" meltdowns suck big-time.
But honestly get counselling. There would be no way we could resolve our issues by ourselves. 
Don't bottle it up. Being angry and bottling it up hurts you more than him, so let him have it. If you are angry he needs to know and he needs to accept it. 
There may be a couple of "1 step forward 2 steps back" moments. These will really hurt. But i believe we will be better in the end. It just takes time to get there.

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I'm not going to lie, when i found out my husband was talking to this girl at work for like 3 weeks just flirting but that shit fuxked me up & that was 6 years ago & idk how we made it pass that but even now, I told him & myself I see anything  again like that im gone 💯, my self worth wasn't there back then either, in a way I learned big from it because I took some of my power back from him, but it's will never be the same, just depends on the kind of person you are on dealing with it.

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I tried but he kept cheating.

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I've heard couples therapy can help. 
Honestly if they dont want to change they won't.. it doesn't matter how good you are to them etc. It just doesn't change. 
However I've been there I wasnt married but in a long relationship and was pregnant. .he stopped for awhile so I thought but ended up finding out he eventually went back to whatever it was he was doing. Me being me (I overthink everything) I eventually found out. Always.

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I tried to stay with my cheating ex but he could only stay away from other women a few months at a time.  He got better about hiding it but I was also more suspicious so I would find out eventually

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I am very close to my sister in law , her husband was having an affair for months behind her back. They have four kids and when she found out she had just given birth to her last baby . She was devastated and heartbroken! She asked for a divorce and kicked him out after , a few months they slowly worked on their marriage. Now they are happy and have somewhat healthy relationships from what she told me . But she also told me it will NEVER be the same and sometime she resents him and it’s a horrible feeling .

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if you've ever been cheated on by your husband, how did you move on?

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