When did you know it was time ?

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We sadly lost our dog in February unexpectedly. She was older bit we never knew her real age since she was adopted and she was in great health according to a recent vet visit, then one day she became extremely sick and turns out she had a undetected tumor burst and we had to put her to sleep. It was very sudden and unexpected and of course we were heartbroken. 
That was in February so it's been a few months now but I still don't feel ready to even think about getting another dog. My son is almost 3 and he has asked about the dog and told me he misses her since it all happened. My husband wants to get another dog but I'm not ready at all. I had a family member chime in and say I was an asshole for not immediately getting a new dog for my son and still not being ready just a few short months later.
Am I wrong for not wanting another dog yet ? How do you come to the decision when one person is ready and the other isn't ? And how did you know it was time ?

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A loss like that should be a family decision.. if one person isn't ready yet they need to wait. Nothing wrong with that and if it bothers them that much they're being disrespectful. You're still mourning.

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You're not wrong at all. People that are saying you are wrong are wrong. Probably don't realize that you're the one that's going to have to take care of it everyday. 3-year-old son is not going to want to take care of a dog when you are ready you will get one. Never know next year you could just go into a pet store  see the dog that takes your heart. Take your time an relax don't worry about what people say. You could always talk to your son about getting a pet fish or a few of them. That was my mom's compromise with us kids. All our fish live for like 10 years.

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I lost my dog 3-4 weeks ago had him 9 years he was fine aswell and then all of  sudden We had to put him down it’s was so hard even now I still cry and miss him so much and I said I don’t think I will ever get a dog again it’s too painful

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No you should wait until you are ready , there should be no pressure

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There is no right time, it’s when it feels right for you. Everyone grieves differently. I had 2 dogs in 2018, my female I had since she was a puppy and our male was adopted as a senior and had been with us for almost 3 years. We found out he had liver cancer after noticing a growth in his scrotum (he was neutered so they had been empty before). He got really sick really fast and when he gave us that look, couldn’t walk on his own probably due to pressure of the tumor on his spine, we had a vet come to our house. I still had my girl, and the shelter we adopted him from wanted us to adopt again, but I was so devastated. I found out 2 weeks later I was pregnant with our first. 4 months later, we found out my female who was also a senior had bone cancer. This was 2 months of taking her to the vet for limping. The emergency vet found the cancer, but by then she was in so much pain. We had the same vet come out when it was her time. Losing both of them 4 months apart was a shock to my soul, I was absolutely crushed. My fiancé was working nights at the time so I came home to an empty house every single night and the silence was too unbearable. I had my girl for almost 13 years, I haven’t lived without a dog since I was 16 years old because my mom always had dogs. Me being pregnant, I just came home and cried everyday. A few weeks after, I started looking into rescues. My fiancé found our girl now and that was that. I felt horrible getting another dog so soon but it helped me heal, I don’t want to know what it’s like to not have a dog. 
It’s literally one of the most heartbreaking things to go through. You need to listen to your heart when you’re ready. My dogs passed away 3 years ago and their leashes still hang in my kitchen where they always have. I can’t let those go. 
Take all the time you need.

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I do not understand why people think they have to replace their lost animals at all, let alone right away. A pet is apart of the family. If you decided you never wanted another dog again, that is your business. I know most dog owners usually do end up getting another one, but there’s no rush. Wait until you’re ready to accept a new member into the family so that you can truly open your heart and home to it. Do not feel pressured to replace what was lost because that’s just not possible to begin with. Your son is so young, he will be fine for awhile.

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It should be a family decision as you all feel the loss. Some people take longer to grieve loss than others. I would talk as a family and come to a compromise.

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I lost my cat that I’d had for nearly 18 years nearly 9 months ago and we’re still not ready to get a new cat. We like the idea of having another fur baby to love but having had to watch our baby suffer for 2 days before having her put to sleep, it’s all just a bit much. I still haven’t grieved properly and talking about her makes me cry. 
I’d say give it some more time and wait until it’s not as painful for you. There’s absolutely no rush on getting a new pet and it sounds like your husband is super eager to get a new one because he wants to fill the void your old dog left behind. I think it’d be healthy for you all to take some more time to heal before you look for another dog.

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Your still grieving the loss of your baby, I wouldn't get one until I was fully ready because you may not form a bond or get attached. Don't listen to anyone else wait until your ready.

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I lost my dog a few hours ago she had complications after giving birth I’m no where near ready for another dog but I want one of her puppies so I’m close to her so I’ll have a piece of her I feel your struggle I’m so sorry

When did you know it was time ?

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