Sibling Parent

I am so tired of being the sibling parent. Let's start with , I'm in my early 20s . I moved out of my parents place at 19 because my step-dad kicked my door down because I didn't come to my mom when she wanted me to.. I was "deemed" disrespectful. My mom was always too tired to interact with us , she worked a 7-6 shift.

She had my siblings when I was a preteen, they're now 11 and 13 . When they were babies , I often stayed in to watch them because my parents were too exhausted to come home and care for the children THEY MADE. So I did. At 12 years old , I took care of my siblings . Now that we are all older , I am always taking my sister to girl scouts , which I agreed to because I thought her dad worked during the time frame. I even asked and my mom said he usually does , no big deal. Until I realized that he's home EVERY time I pick my sister up .

I also noticed that my 13 year old brother pees his bed , and parts of me wants to ask why . Because he's 13 , a little too old to be wetting the bed. He doesn't come out of his room and spends most of his time on videos games. These kids do not go out.

I love my sister , but she has the WORST hygiene. She will leave unwrapped pads in the bathroom, clothes everywhere , won't shower for days if you let her, she too is addicted to her computer.

I want to be there , but I'm so used to being their PARENT instead of their sister. I want to help my sister with her depression , I want her to take better care of herself. As for my brother , I wouldn't even know how to ask if everything is okay with him . My sister and I have never had the peeing in bed problem.

What do I do , as their sister ? Asking my mom or step-dad is like asking a brick wall . They barely know their kids ! They constantly feed them fast food , and send them to their rooms. My siblings have no memories with their cousins or any family really. It's so sad .