Marital dispute 😒 Need opinions

My husband and I spent the entire day arguing. It was EXHAUSTING!!

So my husband has been an absolute @$$ lately. It’s tiring to come home to a grumpy husband every single day.

Finally today was our breaking point. It started with me wearing “tight pants” to work and he was disgusted. I, of course, took offense and was pissed that he would be so rude about it. Then it led into us discussing how he is always in a bad mood. He stated that it was because he cooks us dinner 4 nights a week.

Back track here- I started my very own business last October. It’s been AMAZING! I am my own boss and pick my own schedule. But I am not stupid with my hours, I offer services and know people need to come before and after work. So Monday- Thursday I work 8am-6pm and Fridays 8am-2pm (my husband calls this “part time”). That means Monday-Thursday I need him to pick up our daughter from daycare and cook dinner. He feels like all of the responsibility is on him.

I try hard to help. I cook dinner Fri-Sun, take our daughter to daycare every morning, do all the grocery shopping, and even do the dishes every evening as well as bathe our daughter and put her to bed every night.

He feels burnt out since he is with her from 5pm-6pm four nights a week.

After the break down today I offered to make dinner Tuesday and Thursday nights, whether I make crock pot meals those mornings, or just make dinner when I get home.

He said that wasn’t good enough. He said I need to pick up our daughter from daycare twice a week which means I would have to close my business down early twice a week. He is telling me that I am selfish that I get to choose my hours and I choose to work “late”. That I am choosing work over family

I really don’t want to compromise and close my business early twice a week (half my evenings). My busiest times are from 3pm-6pm.

Am I being selfish? Do I risk clients being pissed at me? UGH I am at a loss on what to do because I really don’t want to close early but I guess my hours are ruining our marriage 😩