Should I reach out again?

hi all,

About 2 months ago, I went out with a guy I really really liked from a dating app. We spoke over facetime once for a few hours ( I was nervous and never dated through a dating app) and we went out twice. I really liked him and was so excited about him because he was exactly what I was looking for and exactly my type physically. The first date went well and when I spoke to my friends I kept saying how scared I was about how much I liked him even though I hadn't known him that long.

The second date was nice but I was not myself. I was much more closed off, quieter and did not let my personality through at all. He was really nice and tried to engage with me but I was so off kilter I was not being my warm, fun self at all.

He even waited with me for over 20 minutes in the heat for my transportation even tho I told him I've and over he didnt have to wait with me. At the end before I left I told him I had a nice time and he seemed surprised I said that and stammered out he had a good time too. But the response let me know the inevitable.

The next day he texted me he had a nice time on our dates but he felt we were missing something. I responded I understood where he was coming from but asked him what it was he felt we were missing. He said he felt like I was too closed off and he wasnt able to open up and attributed that to us not having the best chemistry. I totally got where he was coming from because I was closed off but I thought it was becausw I really liked him a lot more than any other guy I dated and it was only the second date. I told him I understood his thoughts and appreciated his honesty and then explained that I was just very nervous because he was the first guy I ever dated through a dating app which he knew, but that I also was unsure about his intentions (if he wanted something serious, casual, hookup)which also made me closed off but I still appreciated him telling me and at least now I know to be more open. He said he was happy to hear what my thoughts were and I said back, of course, good luck and good night and the next morning he responded and said thank you, you too.

Since then I've dated 2 other guys through the app and even an ex came back that I had the courage to reject again but I still havent stopped thinking about this guy. A part of me thinks if he rejected you and didnt see the potential than keep the L and move on but a big part of me feels upset at myself that I couldn't just open up and be myself around him because we definitely hit it off in the beginning and I was just so nervous that I second guessed everything. Do you think I should reach out and ask him for another shot or should I try to move on?

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