Okay long story short…kinda;

My husband and I tried for 2 years to have a baby, went through fertility and got pregnant finally. I had a rough pregnancy and got admitted at 25weeks for preterm labor and was in the hospital for a total of 4.5 weeks. I had my healthy baby boy at 34+3 and he was in the nicu for two weeks. He has been home a week and my husband loves him dearly but when he cries(which isn’t often) but when he cries and a pacifier doesn’t help my husband turns into a different person and gets so frustrated and he broke down crying to me the other day saying that when our baby cries it’s like a switch flips in his head and he’s afraid he will hurt our baby on purpose. He hates that he feels that way and doesn’t know how to make it stop but he will put the pacifier in his mouth and almost try to force our baby to take it and I have to step in and tell him to calm down and he will but I can just see the anger in his eyes and i don’t know what to do😭 he acknowledges it and wants to get help but at the same time he’s afraid nothing will help and he will hurt our baby/go to jail/or I will leave him.

WTF DO I DO😭

He’s had zero anger issues before this. And yes he wanted a baby and when he’s not crying he loves him so much.

Has anyone’s husband/boyfriend/SO had this issue? 😔