Why do women stay?

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Every single situation is different and I get that. But really, why do (some) women stay when there isn't love in the relationship? I'm not judging anyone. So don't think that. Heck. I stayed with a guy I didn't love because I was too scared to be alone  and he knew it and reminded me that if I left I would probably die alone because I'm fat and how he was doing me a favor by having him on my arm.
My friend is staying because they have children together. My mom left in her teen years because her sister helped drag her away from that coke head. Another friend left because the cops finally believed her once she showed up in an ER beaten to a pulp. I know of someone who stayed because of money and not being able to afford to be on her own.
So I get it. Been there. Why did you stay as long as you did? Or what's keeping you from leaving now? Why is it so difficult for us to leave when things aren't working or aren't healthy?

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Scared to leave, scared to be alone… many reasons. Most women in abusive relationships don’t leave strictly because they’re afraid the guy will hunt her down and kill her. I have a friend going through this now… this guy is literally harassing her and trying to kill her. (Went as far as to put sugar in her gas tank!!)

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Really didn’t wanna be the statistics of being a single young mother. Didn’t wanna be just like mother who had a kid with some dead beat and then go to find another guy who she had the rest of her kids with. Didn’t want my son to have a broken family. But you know shit happens and that’s life. I was on and off with my sons dad for about 3 years. Didn’t want anyone else but him even tho I knew there was so much better out there. Just wanted him to change for his own kid and be better. So glad I left that and now married to the love of my life who I’m having another kid with and treats my son just like his.

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I have a bad case of the grass is always greener complex. He treats me great but the sex sucks. I feel like if I leave to find someone who is better in bed they may not treat me as well in other ways. I only want to leave if there is something better but I won't know if there is or not until I do it. And what if it's not better?

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I wasscared of hurting him I was refusing to see how bad and unhealthy the relationship was sometimes taking a step back it what gives you perspective

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I was scared of the unknown. He also threatened to kill himself I left. Actually attempted and did self harm acts in front of me to scare me into staying. This was all after catching him cheating. I finally left after coming clean to my family and friends about what was going on and talking with my therapist about how to leave safely. It’s coming up on a year since I’ve left. 7/2/2020 is when I was finally freed from him. It all started in March 2020, so almost 4 months of “staying”. Trust me, I definitely didn’t want to be there. Manipulation, scare tactics, fear of the unknown, financial insecurity, and potential lack of support is what kept me there.

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A woman I know stayed because she was concerned of what people would think. She did not want to be a divorcée. But there are men that get abused too. I know two cases. One stayed because his self-worrh was shuttered. The other because he is Catholic and does not believe in divorce but apparently believes in misery.

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After typing and deleting for the past 3 minutes turns out there is no logical reason why I stayed 🙄

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“Love” is an idea. It’s fleeting, purely subjective, purely emotional, and not to be trusted for basing long term decisions that affect other people. You’re not going to live an entire lifetime and ALWAYS feel happiness with the same person. They’ll mess up, you’ll mess up, etc. That’s what the commitment is for. If you find someone with whom you share morals and ideals, and begin that life journey, and you add children, a whole life, etc-then you make a commitment to them to see it through. My husband and I have been through complete hell. Most people call it quits after dealing with what we did. But we stuck it out, because we made a commitment to ourselves, and our children when we had them, to give each other and them the best life possible. All of our lives are better when we’re together, as a family unit. So to leave just because there is a period where I don’t feel “love” would be selfish to me, IMO. Too many lives at stake. 
NOW-I do NOT feel that people in abusive relationships, physically or emotionally, should stay. This is not what I mean. There’s never any justification for that and no one should endure that. I’m just saying that in my opinion, love is too fleeting to make lifelong decisions by.

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I stayed first because I was afraid that I couldn't make it on my own and didn't want to move back with my parents in a different state, then because we had a child and I wanted to try to make it work for her to have an intact happy family. I finally left when I realized I could support myself and her (50/50 custody tho) after not having any help with the bills or household/parental chores for over a year, and he turned mentally abusive when I started texting new friends at the new job I started last year.

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My mom has stayed with my stepdad for about 20 years now I think, it’s not healthy most of the times, and I don’t truly know whether she loves him or not. I’ve always figured she stayed because he was all she really knew, when I talked to her about it she said “who would want a single mom with 4 kids” so that’s probably a huge reason she stayed, she didn’t want to be alone. Also financial issues were always a problem for us. She also had severe depression and anxiety, so she never was motivated to do anything or better her life. 
They’ve gotten better tho and her depression isn’t as bad but I highly doubt she’ll ever leave him, she’s in her 40’s and just used to him 🤷🏽‍♀️

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