Basically, I’ve known this girl since we were in elementary school and now we’re 26. We got into a really bad argument when I was about 16 and lost touch for a whole year. After I reconnected, she told me joyously that she had her first child by her “boyfriend”. Before we had fell out, she never had any boyfriend or was romantically involved with anybody because she was kind of unattractive. People still called her pretty though because she had brown skin and long hair (they said she looked like Chili, I disagree)

When I asked her about the boyfriend she didn’t tell me much and just that his name was DJ and he was a corporate worker or something like that. She didn’t go into too much detail about the baby either, but I was just happy to have her back and didn’t question it much.

Fast forward to 2019, I went to get a breast reduction and kind of lost touch with everybody aside from my mother (who was taking care of me helping me heal) while I was healing. When I finally felt better and could go out, I called her up immediately and she had notified me that she was pregnant by her second child by DJ and she wanted me to come to her baby shower and be the child’s godmother. I was ecstatic because I wasn’t there for her first child’s delivery and her cousin was the godmother, so I was happy to be included in this experience. The baby shower came up, at the baby shower she wore a white long sleeve dresses that accentuates the stomach area but she didn’t look pregnant — just like she had gained 5/10 pounds. Again, I didn’t question it though, because I don’t have kids myself and I understand each pregnancy is different. She could just be small this pregnancy. At the baby shower, she ended up breaking down about her baby daddy being in jail (which was very very confusing). We all consoled her though, me and her family and tried to change the subject so the baby shower would go on in peace.

Fast forward to 2020, the pandemic hits and we don’t see each other for months — she tells me she’s pregnant on the 4th, and then begins to taunt me on the phone because I don’t have a family: I decided not to argue with her because I knew she was in a fragile state being pregnant.

While she’s pregnant, I ended up starting to date this guy from my Pre law class and he ended up taking me and my friend out to the Benihana’s in our city. When we sit down, my friend starts showing us pictures of children and herself being “pregnant” — she also asks us what she should name the baby (it’s a boy). She start bragging and saying she was proud to have a family and be established young and wasn’t like me, the guy immediately took offense — and when she backed away From the table he asked me “Why are you friends with that girl? She’s rude and doesn’t like you.” I told him that she was pregnant, and that I had known her for years and was the godmother to one of her kids. He asked me “The same kids she’s shading you over? She’s so invested in them. Have you ever even seen these kids? She acts like their her whole world” when he said that — something felt weird in my gut and I realized that throughout all these years of her being “pregnant” and having children, she had NEVER let me see them in person. We ended the dinner. The next week, my friend hits me up and begs me to pay some money she owed her sister and that she would pay me back next week. I decided to do a good deed and headed down to her sisters house, halfway there she texts me “And can you come pick me up? I need to grab some prenatal” I agreed and got to the house. Once I got there, I knocked on the door and her sister came to the door. I handed her the money and she thanked me and I went back to my car. My friend wasn’t anywhere to be found, I figured maybe she was moving slow because she was pregnant. After 20 minutes and me continuously texting and calling her with no answer, I knocked on the door again and asked her sister when she would be ready and that I was there to take her to grab prenatal pills

Her sister looked confused and just said “I’ll see how long she’ll be” before she closes the door, I heard a loud shriek from inside the house that sounded like my friend. “NO DJ!” She screamed again. I got concerned and lunged into the house I was so scared for my friend, “Where is she? Is she ok?”

Her sister said “Yeah she’s just on the phone with her boo yelling and stuff”

“he’s not in there beating her is he?” I asked out of concern.

“no...and DJ is a she. She’s not here right now. She left a hour ago they got into a huge fight.”

a she?? I said “you must think I’m talking about somebody else, DJ is her baby daddy.”

“baby daddy? She doesn’t have kids. Where are you getting this from?”

I was so embarrassed I didn’t even know what to say and just immediately left the house. I’m now really scared of my friend because not only did she lie, she took maternity shoots and had baby showers and mom blogs and all type of things going on like she was pregnant. I don’t know whether to cut her off or how to even confront her about it. She SHOWED ME pictures of children before and even gave them names.