Do I give the jewellery back or keep it?

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I'm separated from my ex 10 years and we have 2 adult children. 22 years ago he gave me a ring and a watch which belonged to his  mother. I have told my daughter that this will be handed down to her eventually. A couple of days ago, she asked me to return it to her father as he was looking for it, then I get calls from my ex which I didn't answer which was then followed by a tonne of text messages threatening to ruin my reputation and tell everyone about me ( nothing much to tell tbh, but I work in the community and he can be a nightmare on social media). I have not responded to him at all. 
He's getting nasty saying I am somewhat to blame for his mothers death 23 years ago (he moved in with me that night and thought he could have saved her if he was there) and saying I must still have feelings for him 🤢. Tbh, I think he's a bit envious of the life I have now and Im guessing he wants to pawn the jewelry for a fun day out!  I havent told my current partner any of this, just that there could be a knock on the door. He says just give the jewellery to him, that we have a quiet life and he doesn't want any hassle or drama at our home. I get that, and the jewellery doesn't mean anything to me anymore but once it's gone, my daughter won't get it. I also feel like holding it because he never paid an ounce of child support or helped in anyway to raise the children and finally, I don't appreciate being threatened, so handing it back to him is like him winning by way of placing fear in me.
What do I do??

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I’d probably give it to her. If she gives it to her father and he pawns it then she’ll see how he really is.

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I think you should give it back. You mention that you have no emotional attachment to it besides passing it on the your daughter. but now that you’re divorced and it was HIS MOTHERS you should definitely give it back. No matter what his reasoning maybe (unless he’s an addict) you should still give him back his mothers jewelry. 
I’d probably be talking hella sh*t too if my ex was keeping something that belonged to either one of my late parents as well! Seems to me it’s common sense to give it back.

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If you have no sentimental attachment to them then don't keep them out of spite. Especially since they belonged to his mother who has passed. I agree with your husband that it doesnt seem like it's worth the drama and hassle. I also agree with the other comment that said to give them to your daughter and she can choose to either keep them or return them to your ex. What happens from there is not your concern.

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Why haven’t you given it to your daughter yet? If she’s an adult, she should be able to look after it and should already have it.
Since it’s not in her possession, I would probably give it to your ex. It’s really not your concern if he pawns it. He can do the explaining when she asks him where it is.

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I’d give it back. You have no sentimental attachment to it and it was his mother’s. And if your daughter wanted it she would’ve asked for it by now or something.

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Well if you want my opinion I think you should give it back to him, he can do what he wants with that jewelry even if he pawns it, it's his last memory from his mother, and you holding it and it doesn't mean anything to you make you seem selfish, and it will make things worst like he really can ruin your reputation and tell everyone that you stole it, or you're refusing to give him his last memory from his mom with no obvious reason! Wonder how will people look at you after that

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Just give it back. It’s not yours to pass down to your daughter anyway.

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Give it to your daughter to give to him. He seems too much trouble for what its worth.  It IS his mothers jewelry and maybe he wants to give it to yalls daughter but he seems really immature and petty and he probably will pawn it. But it seems like it's not worth the trouble to keep it

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Give it back or give it to your daughter. If she gives it back, that’s on her. If she’s an adult, I’m not sure why you still have the jewelry anyways.

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If you're daughter is an adult and the jewelry doesn't mean anything to you, why do you still have it? Give it to her and she can give it to him if she wants

Do I give the jewellery back or keep it?

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