Is this manipulative in any way?

Question

Ive just worked out now, the time you have free compared to the time i have free and it doesn’t seem fair to me at all. You have her 4 nights a month and i have her 27 nights a month. You see her for 1 hour every week and i have her 24/7. Im mentally and physically drained. 4 nights a month break is all i get!
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I sent that to my ex because obviously as you can see, im basically doing way more as a parent and im completely exhausted!! Dont get me wrong I absolutely adore my daughter, but i need more time to be me! By the time he finally picks her up im so tired i just want to sleep! And he thinks hes doing me a favour by having her 4 nights a month to give me a break. He wont have her any more than that because ‘he needs a life too’. What about my life? Then he usually says shit like ‘well i work and you dont’. As if hes the only father who ever worked! Not realising that what i do with our child is 24/7, with hardly any breaks or adult interaction! Its much harder than going to work! I fucking hate how he gets to dictate my ‘free’ time by not having her anymore than he does. While hes free to do what he pleases. Is that message i sent him manipulative, or bitter in any way?

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I would be seeking a higher amount of child support to compensate for the higher amount of time she's in your care. He'll either pay - and you can afford to have a babysitter a few times a month or day care or whatever, or he'll start to take her more often in order to not have to pay more.

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Go for 50:50 custody so he can have her half the time🤔.

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Maybe get a job and have him pay for day care?

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I think laying it out like that might help him see how much the difference is but also sounds like he might not care. If I were you I would’ve sent what you did but added on at the end something like “I’m not trying to guilt or patronize you as I know when we had this baby this is the responsibility I also took on when we became parents but so did you and this arrangement isn’t fair” (it’s important to use words like “we” and “us”) “I really want us to be able to co-parent successfully and I don’t want you to think at all I takefor granted the few nights you do have her(? Sorry can’t remember if you stated gender) but all I’m asking for is maybe a little more. I understand you work but an extra few nights a month is not a lot. Even if it was just an extra weekend. We both need our time and I hope you can understand when I say you definitely get more “me” time than I do.” 
I dont know how serious you are about sharing this time or if this is something you might actually consider, because saying this next could either make it really sore or he’ll be like “oh shit”. But you could also add in “I also need a breather mentally and physically badly and if we can’t work this out between us mutually, we might have to consider going to court to get an actual shared time agreement arranged.”

Is this manipulative in any way?

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