My husband told me that he doesn’t like who I am as a person anymore

I need support. I think it’s time for divorce. We’ve been married for 4 years, together for 5. We have a 3 year old daughter. My husband has been very angry for at least the past year, distancing himself and not engaging emotionally. He is short tempered and has outbursts daily, sometimes multiple times a day. Last night was the most hurtful it’s been yet. Yesterday morning I woke up after having fought with him the night before. I was so depressed and heartbroken over my marriage that I felt it necessary to call into work. I spent the day crying and doing the housework that I know he “expects” done when he comes home from work. It was literally everything in me to do a load of laundry, pick up the house, and cook dinner yesterday. Last night he asked me to swap the clothes in the dryer, after I was already laying down in bed and ready to go to sleep, and he was still piddling around. I told him a simple “no”. He got mad and started mumbling under his breath about how useless I am and that he doesn’t need a woman to anything for him and how he works all day and I “do nothing”. He then told me that he doesn’t like who I am as a person anymore. He told me that his expectations for marriage aren’t being met. That all he should have to do is work and I should take care of our daughter, clean the house, do dishes and laundry, and cook, and still go to work. He shouldn’t have to do anything besides go to work because he is the primary breadwinner in our household. I am so heartbroken. I am being stretched completely to my limits emotionally. He doesn’t engage in “normal” conversations with me anymore, or any conversations really. All we do is argue. But God forbid I don’t want to have sex with him when he wants. I have tried to explain all of this to him, but then he starts in on how I must be cheating on him because I don’t want to jump his bones every night, after he’s been mean to me all day. He doesn’t understand that I don’t feel right having sex with him if there is no emotional connection there. Usually after I explain this, he straightens up for one or two days (long enough for him to be sexually relieved). And then he goes back to acting exactly the same way again.

I think it is time for divorce. I’ve exhausted all options, individual counseling, marriage counseling, talking it through just he and I, and having patients for things to get better. Nothing has worked and he refuses to go to counseling anymore, the two times we went were “enough” for him.

He has said multiple times that he will do whatever possible to make sure that he gets custody of our daughter. He has said that his family will pay whatever they need to to get her. We live in Texas, where all of his family lives. My family lives in a different state, so once divorced, I’ll have to move. My only goal at this point is to have my daughter with me full time. How can I do this?