Sex Issues TMI

So my husband cheated and I left him 3 years ago.

Recently we decided to give it another try.

The sex before everything was good great. We started having sex again since January and it’s different like a lot. Used to foreplay touchy feeling and he loved my boobs. Now he barely goes near them and not much touchy like just to the point or he’ll say help him get in the mood (hard).

Our first time since getting back literally I was celibate those 3 years and the first time was minutes if that and honestly wasn’t really hard.

Then I noticed he doesn’t get hard hard anymore as before. Like it’s never what it used to be if that makes sense. And sometimes it’s like hard enough to penetrate but not hard hard. I’ve had times where we been at the deed and it goes limp. I try my best to revive it but it just doesn’t get hard hard. I’m reviving it to continue but then he finishes.

He says it’s bc I’m so wet and it’s so good… but I’m thinking it’s something else.

How do you deal with this? Like i know if I say something is wrong with him he will flip that is how he is thinking I’m saying he can’t or isn’t a man.

But something is just off idk. I’m 32 and he’s 36 so I don’t think we’re old. Plus he doesn’t get it up more than 1 a week sometimes every 2 weeks. He says it’s bc he’s not 20 years old anymore snd he takes tons of medicines and overweight. Idk how do you handle this