I’m over his friends

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, when I met his friends they were cool and fun. As time went on they talk about each other and sometimes petty fights. Whatever not my problem I’m just the girlfriend just trying to keep things cool.

Recently, one of the girlfriends in the group we don’t see often because whenever she drinks she does and says stupid things and blacks out. She recently tried playing with my boyfriends balls with her phone…. My boyfriend told everyone and told his friend (her bf) what she did and she can’t be doing that. We see them again and she gets drunk and says disrespectful things to me and I was ready to throw a wine bottle at her. After that moment I was losing respect for the group because they would talk shit about her and say to my face they understand. But then switch to that my bf and I need to get over it and their not gonna “isolate her”. So basically they have accepted her bad behaviors and we have to be ok with it too…..

Yesterday we attended a party, we thought they wouldn’t be there. Even showed up early to help and didn’t even get a thanks. The girl and her bf showed up. So my bf and I avoided her and would just walked into different space yet she would still follow me and tried giving me make up samples. No thanks. She ends up telling the birthday girl and the host that she is assuming it’s not a duo party and no one wanted to do anything for her birthday. Rude. But again they invited her. They finally left because her bf noticed she was getting too drunk and getting upset that he wouldn’t let her have anymore beer so they left with only him saying good bye and her sitting on the grass waiting on him. Don’t get me wrong her bf isn’t innocent I think he’s not that great to her like thinking of her birthday or justifying her cheating behaviors.

I thought my bf and I did the right thing by not talking to her and avoiding her so there’s no drama. However once again we’re getting told by a couple (who think they are the core) that will not isolate people and we need to get over it. Honestly I’m sure if this drunk girl was all over her husband she would lose it too and kick her out and never invite them again. But apparently my bf and I aren’t relevant enough.

So I told my bf last night I was done. I’m done always helping with their parties and food when the other girls didn’t help and I think they are all fake. My bf says that if they make me feel this way then we don’t need to be around them anymore. Because he doesn’t get it himself why they accept this girl either. I didn’t want to be that gf that pulls him away from his friends but I will not put up with fake people either. So I told him I’ll work or stay home for other events because I’m over them. This is why I don’t care for groups and always preferred friends one on one