I’m 28. My mother is 45. This will be her first grandchild. I understand the excitement but she is getting on my nerves. She has told me many times that I “hurt her feelings” because I don’t want her at my doctors appointments and because I don’t want her in the delivery room. The baby’s father will be here for it and he’s the only one I want present. I want this to be our experience. Her most recent attempt at guilt tripping me is me letting my best friend know the gender of the baby for the gender reveal party (that I don’t even want to have because I don’t want to know the gender. But the father does so I let him win this one) and not her. Also, my mother is a blab-mouth. When I told her I was pregnant and that I wanted it to be a secret she told her best friend, my aunt, and then my cousin. Taking that away from me is something I haven’t gotten over. She’s also tried to convince me to let her tell my father (They split before I could speak) they’re not even friends she just wants him to know that she knew first (big fucking regret) I want the baby’s father to tell my dad because they get along so well and I’m honestly terrified. And of course she came with the “you’re taking all the fun out of this” as if she didn’t have THREE of her own pregnancies to control. And last night was the breaking point for me. I am a Packers fan, the baby’s father is a Saints fan (👎🏽) and she is of course a cowgirls fan 🙄🤮 and last night she said that as soon as she gets the baby alone she’s going to dress it in all cowboys gear and take pictures (which I clearly verbally forbade) so I told her that she will not be watching my child alone due to the fact that she gave my aunts first born a haircut without asking for anyone’s permission. And I refuse to go through that because I’m a violent person. And her response was, I kid you not “if you let one of your lil stupid ass friends have that baby before I do you’re in for a rude awakening if you think you’d dad is an asshole just wait” she doesn’t even know my closest friends and that insult set me over the edge. Not to mention, this is MY child and I will let whoever I choose watch it whenever I want. The entitlement is driving me fucking insane. I need advice on what to do. Because NOTHING has worked and she swears this is HER child.