Am I in the wrong?

So this week was my birthday and I went to dinner with my family and friends on Tuesday. My bf was supposed to come with me but he didn’t. So obviously I was upset right, it was my birthday and he didn’t show. I understood why he didn’t come and decided to just drop it and move forward.

Last night I wanted to go out with some of my other friends to the bars. Most of my friends are guys, only because it’s difficult for me to make girl friends (not because of the “drama” or some lame reason like that).

So we are all about to leave the bar and some of us want to go to a club next door, my boyfriend says he wants to go home and leaves without saying goodbye. That also hurt me because he didn’t even give me a hug or anything, he just left. So I called him and he kept sending me to voicemail, I just wanted to check that he was good to drive home. At that point my mood is ruined and I just want to go home. I told him he was acting like a jerk and being really rude to me (we exchanged some texts and he basically said it’s my fault I didn’t go home with him).

This morning I felt bad for lashing out and I apologized for that. Only to find out he was really upset about some other things. He was upset that I was with only guys (all only friends and nothing more!) and that I called him a jerk for not “catering to my every wish on my birthday”.

Normally, I hate my birthday and it’s never a big deal. People bail on my birthday every year so I was excited that my new friends were coming out to celebrate with me.

Are we both in the wrong here? I feel terrible and I’ve had bad anxiety all day over this situation. I really don’t want it to be the end.