Advice? part 1; it’s pretty long

Okay, so this is the tea, I’m in a 2.5 year relationship & meet this girl about a year ago & because she’s so close to me current only friend, we become friends on my 22nd birthday. Immediately, she, my current friend, & are the only ones who spent my birthday with me & she buys me (& everyone else about $50 worth of) pizza. She’s a Taurus (as am he & I) & I’m like okay, she’s cool. We start hanging out as a friend group & I notice that when we talk, everything about the mutual friend seems so negative. Now, I’ve noticed negative qualities in the mutual friend, but don’t we all have them. Furthermore, prior to us meeting on my birthday, I didn’t even know about her & they’d been friends since high school. The mutual friend had told me about her other high school friends, but didn’t mention her & she’s even come down to visit before & I didn’t know. So I’m just like “hm, i wonder why she never talked about or had any stories about you.”

Okay, fast forward to when we all get close. We’d hung out plenty as a friend group & gone places together, but at about the halfway point of our friendship, I started to feel weird about her. She would 1) come over ALOT & 2) when she did, she’d stay for A WHILE & 3) she would initiate talk with my man, they’d converse, but when I’d start to talk she’d talk over me. I brushed it off for a while cause I’m like “maybe, I’m just tripping or too crazy about my man”. I shared my feelings about it one night cause this feeling had been taking over me for a while, to the point where I noticed I was carrying an attitude around. Now, when I shared my feelings with him, I also took a break from my friends to clear my head because I also had things going on with myself (depression) & didn’t want it to cloud my judgment. To be honest, I really needed a break from her.

[Sidenote, the mutual friend & I used to be roommates]

While I was taking this break, (which was no problem for the mutual friend, although I’d never had to take a “break” from her in the past) she was texting my man to “check on me” & still texting my phone subliminally guilt tripping like “I’m not sure what’s going on with you but I just wanted to directly reach out”. Like, you understand that a break means no contact for the most part. I don’t want to be receiving text messages at the same rate. (Lemme know if I’m tripping). Anywho, my man & I are talking one morning & im sharing with him that she’s really all up in my space & I just met her & she’s really really comfortable, which kinda makes me uncomfortable. He told me that he basically thought I was tripping cause she really likes me, loves me, & cares about me a lot.

So I sit on it for a while & at some point, she asks if she can take me & him out on night. We go & she’s interacting with him so heavy. They walk off & play pool together. They played mega jenga together & it would be at times where I’d gone to get a drink from the bar or use the restroom. They only real attention I got was when I wanted some pictures before we left. I noted it but didn’t trip.