Am I overthinking?

Question

So, my boyfriend has had more sexual experiences than I have. I've never given head, he's given and recieved. I never had a one night stand, he has. I've never showered with anyone, he has. He's has more sexual partners, I've only had one. I haven't had sex and done any sexual activities with him yet. I know I shouldn't be jealous or mad about his past but it kinda makes me insecure. How can I get over it and should I tell him I feel? I don't want this to become a problem and I know I shouldn't worry about it, but it honestly bothers me.. What should I do?

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Your story is the same as mine!

When my boyfriend and I first got together, I realized what huge differences we had... He had multiple partners before me, I had only had one partner before him. He had been in a long term relationship before me. I had been in one for 6 months max. So I felt like he was really experienced and I wasn't, and it made me feel insecure.

But, what I realized was this, he knew all of these things about me. He knew my flaws, my insecurities, and he STILL chose to be with me. So at the end of the day, I know he loves me regardless oh how much "sexual knowledge" I have. Besides, that's the fun of a new relationship.. Exporling each other in new ways ;) just be open with him!! Good luck, love! Don't be insecure it's a good thing you aren't too "experienced"

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I don't think that talking to him about it at first is completely necessary. I would try to look at it in the way that there will always be a past but there is no future yet, and as of right now he is choosing you. If he is loyal to you then there is no reason to bring it up to him or for insecurities. A little jealousy is normal. But remind yourself about how amazing you are and how he chose YOU. If you feel bad enough, then the relationship will take a turn and affect you in more ways than just feeling jealous and you will know it's time to break up. Until then, let go, take a breath, and know you are his and nobody else has got him like you do.

However, if he is texting those girls all of the time or being shady, a conversation is definitely necessary. I would begin by saying how uncomfortable you feel and how insecure it makes you and how that isn't who you are. Mention how it's surprising you feel this way because you typically don't, but that you don't want to feel this way so what are things you can BOTH do to help fix it. Relationships are not easy and they do take work.

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Obviously only have sex when you're ready, but try to do what he's already done with others plus more. It's how my partner got over some things. For example, I had had sex in my car with someone before him, so for him to get over it, we had sex in the car. Might not work for you but it has for others 😊

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My boyfriend has had much more experience than I have (I have slept with two people, the first of which should have never happened 😞) and he's slept with plenty. But that hasn't affected our relationship at all. In the beginning, I knew I wasn't that great at sex because I've only had it with one person, one time and I didn't really even want to... If you're feeling Really insecure talk to him about it :)

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Same position here!! Any advice or thoughts are welcome!

Am I overthinking?

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