How do you cope?

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For those of you who have been trying to conceive for a long time, how do you cope with seeing positive hpt's and pregnancy announcements? Obviously I am so happy for everyone trying who gets pregnant and think it's so beautiful seeing someone's joy but do you get jealous of that person? Do you constantly wish that was you? Especially people that don't have to try 😔
   I feel like a bad person getting jealous and sad but I can't help it :/

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Same. Sometimes feels like pregnancy is everywhere, suddenly lots people I watch on YouTube are now preg and making announcements. 4 people I been subbed to for a few years just announced preg. Some of which where accidental 🙄 and as a delivery driver for supermarket. I often have nappies baby milk on board. Even few days after miscarriage I worked an was greeted at the door by a women holding new born. I looked down and avoided eye contact cause I wanted to stay professional and not have melt down. After all not anyone else’s fault. It’s not even my fault 🤷🏻‍♀️just is what it is. Two years unexplained infertility is draining. During Covid I had lady crying on doorstep because the panic buyers ment she had no baby milk. I swallowed the lump on my throat and when got back to the store we just had a delivery so I arranged a can do go out to here at 11pm at night so she had something to feed her baby. Inner strength is real and support is real regardless of your personal situation. Much love to all you ladies on this journey x

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I just didn't open those posts. It is okay to do that.

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I avoid it as much as possible, drink wine and go to therapy.

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I found them hopeful for awhile but something snapped after my best friend got pregnant her first cycle. I just couldn't stand to see them anymore and that's okay. Block what you need to block and live your life.

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You’re not a bad person for getting jealous. I got extremely jealous when my best friend got pregnant (I had been trying for a year at that point, she didn’t try really). I tried to hide it but she could see right through it…it was shitty & we aren’t friends anymore because of me. 
I think jealousy is completely normal - but it’s a bitch & it can eat you alive. I hear you & know where you’re coming from. I don’t know your story, but I think you’re validated in whatever you’re feeling 💖 sending you light & love…& a little patience 😉

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Yeah definitely avoid those posts and announcements as much as I can. Limit social media, hide/unfollow things that trigger me. I don't go to baby showers. Send a nice gift it it's someone close to me and I am always civil and kind, but I can't fake a lot of enthusiasm when I'm hurting and left out. I set a lot of boundaries during this time. I make myself the priority and protect my feelings as much as possible. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. And honestly, I don't care if anyone does think I'm being selfish or petty, it's how I survive.

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