Would you believe ?

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A man who says that his baby mama won’t let him see his kids without thinking some ulterior motive as to why she really decided not too ? 🤦🏽‍♀️😑

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This is a tough one. Because I've witnessed it myself with immediate family members. Where mom is hella bitter and does what she can to prevent dad from seeing the kid/s. Whole ass court battle to get the parenting plan in writing and legal so she couldnt pull that shit anymore. Now he has the kiddo 95% of the time. Mom only gets here every other weekend and still hasnt managed to come get her in the last 2 months. So. She's a real POS. I've got stories for days on this one.
On the other hand, as a mother myself, I'd definitely be questioning if there was a reason. And don't just jump to the "shes a crazy baby mama" bullshit either. I want the full story, without derogatory name calling. Can be as simple as "she didn't want to, but we broke up now she's upset I'm dating and is trying to keep my kids from me. This is what I'm currently doing to remedy the situation." Because any man who actually wants to see his kids will take the time to do the shit he needs to do (legally) to see his kids. It may be a hell of a battle strung out for months/years. But I want proof you're taking those steps.

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I’ve been on this situation as a child. My dad would claim my mom would keep us from him which wasn’t true at all. He made excuses on why he couldn’t get us and we simply didn’t want to be around him. My mom explained to me we have to go so she doesn’t get in trouble with the court. If he didn’t come get us on his days then we just didn’t go 🤷🏽‍♀️. 
Some men just make excuses for being crappy fathers. Others have legitimate reasons for saying the mother won’t let the father see his kids.

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No I would not believe it unless there was hard evidence that it wasn’t his behavior that caused it. Yes there are situations where the dad did nothing wrong but I would NOT assume that he’s telling the truth here. There are sooo many deadbeats out there that blame the mother when it’s really the man’s abuse, addiction, or voluntary absence that caused him to not see his kids.

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Unfortunately kids are used as pawn /leverage all the time.

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Its just a coin toss. Either hes abusive and irresponsible or the baby mama is vindictive. There is a whole youtube channel called Mr Palmer where men go on and discuss their ccourt battles and battles with their exes to see their kids. They call women like this BABY MAMA TERRORIST. One man said the women slapped his child in the face and locked the car doors so he couldnt get to her. They discuss their challenges because courts favor mothers even if the mothers are demonic or unfit. Its quite interesting because we usually dont hear about unruly women who use their children as pwns.

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