You’re so stupid

So today, I got up with my son, let my husband sleep. Whatever. When he eventuallly gets up, he is immediatly angry and goes “where is my phone charger”. I get up grab it and hand it to him. I ask “what’s wrong, why are you angry?”. In which he goes off about me touching his stuff. I’m mind blown. There is a charger literally in the bed right next to him. There is like 10 other chargers in the house. I don’t understand why he got so mad about this. I proceed to hand it to him and he goes “no, I want you to admit you were wrong”. I said “what? What do you want? An apology?” He said yes so I apologized then he proceeded with “that wasn’t a real apology. You don’t mean it. You were wrong!” I said “what do you want from me” then he proceeded with “ I want you to realize how FUCKING STUPID YOU ARE!” It immediatly brought me to tears, which he mocked me for. I dropped the charger to go to the bathroom….was it that serious?

Update: No this isn’t the first time this has happened. He texted me later and sai “how does it feel being perfect”, and essentially blamed me for it.

Yesterday we had a similar instance. I’m sick, and pregnant, and was taking the day off. I normally take our son to daycare but asked him to because of how terrible I was feeling and I didn’t want to keep him home and be on him. As soon as our son woke up, instead of getting him ready and taking him, he brings him to the bed and lays with him. This wouldn’t be a problem if our son would actually go back to sleep. Well when he got him to the bed. I moved a little and immediatly our son started fussing. My husband just payed there with him screaming in him for 20 minutes. I said hey, he has to get ready, are you not taking him anymore. He immediatly snaps back, tells me to shut up and leaves the room with my toddler with me. After a moment he barged back in the room, tells me I need to get up and find his car keys since I had them last. I’m crying at this point because exauhsted, sick ect. So I get up…these keys were right on the table. In plain sight. I showed him them he goes off about how they aren’t supposed to be there, it’s not his fault, I need to put them on the key ring anytime I have them (I unlocked the door with them the night prior with the keys when we were out, I laid them on the table because my husband had asked me to grab pajamas for our son and he will put him to bed). It just bothered me. He didn’t even look. I said this is ridiculous. You know I’m sick, they were right there. He blows up calling me dumb, retired ass bitch, and chases me into the bathroom. In my face, mocking me for crying. I start to throw up and he mocks me for that too, then grabs our son and leaves.

He is stressed with work and school, but looking back I see him taking it out on me. I can’t take it anymore. It seems like there is always something every few weeks and idk why it happens. It makes me feel crazy because the stuff he gets mad about, I react so differently. Then going off ab ohhhh t the keys, when he literally took my car the day before and I couldn’t find them and went without my car for a day.

I just don’t know anymore.

It hurts seeing some of you ladies have never had things like this happen from your man. I’m jealous. But I’m also scared I don’t deserve better