What do you think?

So last time, when we got back in my home country I had to see my closest friends, 2 of them are since elementary school and one of them, I know her since high school and we were roommates during college.

One of these friends has 2 kids, and the other hasn't. So when I told them, I want to see them alone (without their husbands), they kept insisting: it would be better if we see each ALL. And I didn't want it. They asked me why. And I told the truth. That I don't have ANYTHING in common with their husbands to talk about.(And I'm not even interested to start conversation) But the thing is that, I rarely have something to talk about with them too, since my life and their lives are so different.. the topics are their kids, how they cooked, what did their mil said, or this one said, the weather,... Which I'm okay with... Although I prefer meaningful talks, but I don't mind, actually I'm glad if I'm listening to them. For the second meeting, one of them insisted again to see each other ALL OF US after I told her, I don't want it. My husband doesn't feel comfortable to talk with them, since we see them once a year or two and has 0 in common, and neither I am talking with their husbands. I came to see and spend time with THEM, the kids. I'm happy if their husbands are fine and healthy. I just don't get it, why they have to take them everywhere, especially considering the fact that we haven't seen each other for 2 years. So yeah. At the end we met just the 3 of us and the kids.

Lately I noticed that during our communication now, that their answers are pretty short and they don't wanna talk at all.

I don't know what to say. Should have I done what my friend wanted or... Was my wish too much to ask from them?

EDIT: I did say about having a "girls day", sadly it was not enough. The thing is that through the years we've been really close, during high school especially, we used to talk about everything. But I have the impression that they "lost their voice" after getting married, became more " official".

The husbands they have now are their boyfriends since a decade, and we had a lot of meetings before, ALL of us, although we didn't have much to say to each other. It's struggle I see in them too. They are quiet and my friends can't talk freely in front of them like we used to.

When we went out just the three of us and the kids I opened the subject TTC, they started to open themselves, to talk about their struggles and ifv. And we all felt so much better after it. And they insisted that we see each other one more time. But as I said, I want it private, where we can hang out like back in the days.

Plus... I could find any subject to talk with their husbands if bringing them was a must, but it hurted me somehow, because I came back after 2 years home, and they struggled to find 1-2h time just for us.