He just wants to be friends but now also my roommate??
We have hooked up and see and talk to each other everyday. He’s made it clear he’s not in the right headspace for a relationship now and I totally get that. I’ve told him that I like him but respect that he wants to be friends and am ok with it right now. We also completely stopped hooking up as well. He’s never once told me he actually likes me or has feelings for me but I feel like if he’s constantly reaching out and wanting to see me, he must feel something no? He’s told me he thinks I’m beautiful etc
Anyways, his lease is up dec 1 and his landlord is selling the house he’s lived in for years. Rentals are very hard to come by these days where we live and prices have skyrocketed. I’ve been helping him look for places and every one he’s looked at has turned out to be a dud. I live in a brand new 2 bedroom apartment down the road from him and when we were talking today I mentioned that I might want a roommate soon (not thinking it would EVER be him because he also has a 13 year old son he has custody of every 2 weeks) anyways, he said ‘I’d be your roommate’ we talked about him having my guest room and him just sharing it with his son when he’s in town.
SO QUESTION?? Did I just get Uber fucking friend zoned with the fact that he would be my roommate? Meaning he clearly sees no future with me so no biggie being roomies? Or am I crazy in feeling like this is just weird because he KNOWS I like him. I didn’t give him any answer I’ve honestly just been sitting here like huh? Why would he want to live with me? I’m so damn confused 😐
Edit to add: he said he doesn’t want a relationship ‘right now’ because of things he has going on with his son and family. He’s made comments about us dating and even asked if I would move 3 hours across the state with him next year. So he never said ‘I never want to be with you’
Edit to add again: now that I think about it, I feel like he might want to live with me so I can help him with his son and THAT is not something I am signing up for. Don’t get me wrong, I could use the help financially with rent but for a man who knows I like him to want to move in with me AND have his son there just seems really strange to me. So it’s going to be a hard no from me
Update:
I told him I didn’t think it was a good idea for him to move in since I have feelings for him and he said the only reason he was keeping it friendly was because he was supposed to move across the coast in a few months but now that’s pushed back a year and he wants to talk about it all with me
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