Conflicted. Planning how to leave

I thought it wouldn’t happen to me. I realized when my bf was mad I said I didn’t like that he initiated a handjob in the car during his lunch break that he is not the one for me. So YES I complied but his anger came when I said that was coercive the next day. He said “are we in a relationship or not? It makes me doubt if you want my love or if you actually love me.” He had said he had a boner and guided my hand downwards- for us this is a no no because I’ve been assaulted/coerced/stalked. He left out on his dating profile that cars (AND guns) are his life and I don’t want anything to do with guns. He does not care that I have passions as well. He calls bj/hj and boob sucking making love and I said over and over those activities don’t do even a fraction of what him actually pleasuring me would do. Last month my family home burned down and the cats died. The sentencing for the dealer in the case of my sisters death is in 10 days. I am fragile so I’m hoping to put off leaving my bf until finals which is Dec 5-12 roughly. By Christmas I should have 94 credits🙏 He’s so affectionate and protective which is absolutely alien to me. He’s trying to continue like nothing happened so he’s coming over to watch a movie aka we always sit in bed together. I am unsure if I love him and I notice his voice on the phone makes me uneasy ever since Thursday when he blew up at me. He asked to be my boyfriend on date 1 (3/18/21) and I didn’t respond cause that’s crazy. Date 2 he touched my thigh and boob while sitting in my parked car and I broke it off for 3 weeks. Date 3 was sparks- a few weeks as friends helped. He was kind and showed me passion plus how he could touch me consensually. Within 2 days I said alright we can be a couple.

More on what’s written in the photos- I come to find out after I’ve fallen for him that we have utterly opposing political views and he won’t have sex with me. He met my family 9 weeks after we matched on POF and I have some rapport with his sister and SIL. My family knows about his anger over this handjob because I had to vent. My mom has my back but they don’t get why I would feel threatened by leaving. I’ve seen his little anger spurts combined with the revelations of his misogynistic opinions from this recent fight. He has 40k+ savings and many guns at age 25 whilst I’m days from 22 with simply an above average college student budget. I feel scared but he’s so familiar and my first boyfriend.

I really thought we were Romeo and Juliet. Muslim and Jewish partners. Now I see more sides of him, which can be quite vindictive. I do have places to shelter myself but he also knows where my fam lives.

So my question is, what sort of legal things could I do? I feel at this point that I couldn’t get a restraining order approved. My 18 yo brother would not survive losing both older sisters in 25 months. I am going for caution here. His father was involved with the Mafia back in the day. Tomorrow I will be alone with him in my house bc landlady is visiting her mother. As a buffer I am bringing my dog because my bf adores her and hasn’t seen her since she survived the fire. This is a lot for me to take on so I did like the idea of having some help or nice thoughts from you on here 😩 my parents hated each other and didn’t say they loved me. My bf did make me feel loved but it’s been a while bc of the increasing disrespect. I don’t exist to serve him and he’s mad I don’t think a gun range date is romantic