Feeling unattractive to my husband, even moreso during pregnancy, and it hurts :(

I've always had a bigger sex drive than my husband and I've always felt insecure about why he doesn't seem to desire me more sexually. He suffers from erectile dysfunction and says the ED makes him avoid initiating sex a lot of the time due to fear of his dick not working as it should. My insecurities make me feel like I'm the cause though he swears that's not the case. My husband can go weeks without initiating sex and doesn't think that's a problem. I avoid initiating too because I'm scared to get turned down. He knows I'm ALWAYS in the mood for it if he initiates.

Now I'm pregnant and he's literally told me the bump isn't sexy and we have even less sex than before. I mean he said it with a smile while giving me a kiss like he was trying to be sweet and a bit funny, kinda like "well your bump is cute but I'm sure we both agree it isn't sexy"... I don't think he understands that it actually hurt my feelings. It's during a time like this i have an extra need to feel like he still finds me attractive despite what my body is going through. Another time when I expressed my insecurities to him and said I wish he'd want to have sex with me more often. He apologized and said he would do better and suggested spicing things up by giving me a a massage with oil to get in the mood. I opened up and mentioned to him that I didn't feel so confident in my pregnant body with my big belly, and he goes "well i can just fuck you from behind then".

I wish he would have said my body is beautiful and attractive and that i have no reason to not be confident. Instead he just seemed to confirm that yeah, it might be best if i hide my body.. Of course nothing has come of the suggestion of a massage or having sex more often..

He's been away for a few weeks on a work trip and got back a couple of days ago. He said he was excited to see me and sleep in the same bed together again and he even said he was looking forward to sex.. Well, while we haven't had sex yet since he got back and there has definitely been opportunity.. he just hasn't t showed any interest. I don't know why I let him get my hopes up that things would get better :/

I'm feeling so sad about this whole thing that it makes me cry.. often. I'm not sure I understand my own feelings. Am I overreacting? Do I have prenatal depression or a valid reason to feel so sad all the time lately? Today has been rough. Even though I should just be happy that he is back from his trip and he is sweet and has given me some hugs and kisses, all I want to do is cry. We were on the sofa together watching a show on tv for an hour after putting our toddler to bed and he didn't touch me in any intentional way other than once to feel my bump and baby kicking. I just want to feel sexually desired by him so badly it hurts..

Maybe i should add that while I'm in the third trimester and obviously have a big bump and have put on some weight, I've stayed within recommended weight gain and i was fit before pregnancy so i don't look like a whale or anything..

Sorry for the long post but I just needed to vent and I was wondering if anyone else is going through something similar?