Am I having a miscarriage??! Insane Doctor Visit

Long story!

I found out I was pregnant October 12. They have given me at least 5 different due dates ranging between June 6-June 16. This is my first pregnancy so I don’t really understand a whole lot this is a learning process as well. The first appointment and ultrasound The baby was so small you could barley see in ultrasound it was like 3 mm. But they said I was 5 weeks. 2 weeks later I went back and the baby had grown and they said I was measuring probably around 5 weeks yet again and it wasn’t accurate last time. So I went to the doctor today, 4 weeks later, and the baby has doubled in size. Not exactly arms and legs but you can definitely make out the head and the body! I was amazed. The father actually said “wow it’s gotten so big!” They said I was supposed to measure around 10 weeks. This Obgyn I’m going to is not the best. They have horrible reviews BUT as of right now this is the only place around me that takes my insurance. I planned on switching doctors eventually but didn’t think I would have this many problems right off the bat. I got to my appointment at 1pm and wasn’t seen until 1:40, sat in waiting room. She took me back took my BP & temperature & said dr will be in shortly. 30 mins later doctor comes in- “hi how are you today go ahead and lay back” scans my belly for maybe 3 mins (I have a upside down heart shaped uterus, my mom is the same way! She had 2 kids but the pregnancies were a little difficult & she said they had a hard time with heart beats) “hmm because of the shape of your uterus it’s hard to get a good picture. We may have to do the vaginal ultrasound like the last 2 visits.. but there’s the heart beat!” And I see it appear across the screen and so does the father. We even heard it at a low volume. It was turned down or something. Then she said go to the waiting room we will call you back. ANOTHER 30 mins later, I get called back a whole different ultrasound tech, she tells me to strip waist down, I do and she puts the ultrasound stick in for maybe 20 seconds and says “I don’t see a heartbeat I’m sorry” and I was very confused, the picture was so much clearer you could see how big the baby has grown and it made no sense. I said “the other girl just said there was a heartbeat.. I saw it on the screen” she gave me a side eye and said “well she wasn’t sure.” And she handed me my usb bracelet and said “there’s no new pictures. Sorry. We will go to room to discuss what to do next.” I got dressed went to the room and the first girl that said “there’s the heartbeat” comes in and says “okay I can give you 3 options, 1 I can give you a prescription that will make you bleed very heavily and you will pass the baby within a week, 2 we can do a D & C (I know I pronounced that wrong this is my first pregnancy Idk exactly!) and we can put you under and clean everything out, or 3 you can come back in a week and we can see what happens.” I just was so confused and she proceeded to say “I think you miscarried after your last appointment late October ( today is November 22) BUT I NEVER had a chance to mention how I had went to the ER for some mild cramping November 5 and they had told me everything was perfect and heartbeat was 160. They never gave me the chance. Never asked how things have been I literally just sat in the waiting room most of my visit and was maybe seen for 10 mins and when I was actually talking to someone it was bad news I was in such shock I forgot to mention it. Didn’t think about it until I got to the car. But after she gave me my options I told her “I think I’ll wait. Thank you” and we got up and left. Mainly because I was there for 2 hours and 1 girl heard and saw a heartbeat and the other looked for 15 seconds and didn’t see anything and told me she’s sorry. Now I think they have my due date and everything confused. I’m not being measured correctly and I know that baby has grown so much and I SAW a heartbeat SHE mentioned that there was one. They didn’t offer blood work to check my levels just jumped straight to a medicine to end my whole pregnancy. They did say I was supposed to be 10 weeks but the baby measured around 8 weeks. But like I said, I don’t think they have a accurate due date and no communication and no patience. That place has a 3 star review & the reviews are awful!! I’m going to the ER tomorrow to tell them I think I may be at risk for miscarriage and hopefully they hear a heartbeat. I am having some brown spotting BUT it’s not black and heavy like google shows when you type “brown miscarriage discharge” it’s more clear brown, like old blood. And I’ve mentioned from the start I spot and discharge brown blood everytime I have sex & they have said from the start that’s normal, but today she said “that’s why your having that. The baby is dead” very heartless and rude. And i asked her why I’m still having the symptoms and puking almost everyday and she said “well your still pregnant that will happen” and I was like “but I thought the baby stopped growing a month ago?” And she just said she’s sorry it sucks and it happens. And I just want an opinion. If they are correct and there’s no heartbeat I will accept that! I just wish they weren’t so heartless and quick to get the baby out of me, they didn’t offer to check my levels or anything. I was there for 2 hours and seen maybe 10 mins. I’m just heartbroken and the wait to know if my baby has a heartbeat is killing me. Because I know I saw and heard one & heard her say “well there’s the heartbeat, let’s do a vaginal ultrasound because the shape of your uterus” 🥺 please be kind. I know I typed a lot. I’m nervous.