He’s a friend of mine, we’ll call him Lance ‘cause why not. I didn’t know that he was trans until after I realized I was attracted to him (I’m demi), and he and I have had long conversations about it. But I get really anxious that now that I know I can’t separate him from his identity? Like, I have a really difficult time thinking of him as “my guy friend Lance,” now it’s always “my guy friend Lance who is trans.” And I feel bad about it ‘cause he’s so much more than that?? But it also impacts the way I talk to him. Like, is it appropriate to be having conversations with him that I generally wouldn’t have with a guy friend just because he grew up with girl issues? And am I being bigoted because I can’t think of him outside of his being trans? Or am I just overthinking because of how much I like him?