who’s in the wrong? *argument*

last week my boyfriend and I tried anal sex for the first time. i’ll admit i’m not 100% into the idea of anal sex but i did it to make him happy and just to experience what it was like. we did lots of prep and used lots of lube and it hurt so bad. possibly one of the worst pains i’ve ever experienced and i actually cried about it. i let him a get a few thrusts in before i asked him to stop which he did. that was it that night.

well last night my boyfriend asked to do it again. i worked up the strength to tell him no. i told him that it was extremely painful and that i didn’t like how it felt when he was thrusting (kind of feels like reverse pooping?) he told me that we’d use more lube and do anal foreplay for longer. he told he really wants to do it “right” and wants it to be a common, at least biweekly event in our sex life. i told him i was uncomfortable and didn’t like it. i apologized for disappointing him but i was in too much discomfort. he yelled at me and said that i didn’t even put effort in to get used to it and that other women do it so why can’t i. he also told me that when he gets bored with our sex life and things go wrong because of it, don’t blame him. he stormed out of our bedroom and slept on the couch last night. and he’s been giving me the silent treatment all day despite it being thanksgiving. am i wrong for not trying more? i really wanna talk to him today about it but don’t know what to say. i don’t know what to do.