i met this man in college and we totally hit it off at first. he could come over and we would have such a great time. he was going to go to bed when the eclipse was happening but he got up and went to look at it with me even though he had to get up super early. i got kicked out of my room by my roommate and was just chilling in the common room when he invited me to nap in his room. all we did was cuddle and nap, he didn’t try to pull anything. one night he came over when i had drank a little too much. he left to go to the bar and i got very upset that he would leave me. looking back that was very immature but in the moment i has very hurt. he came back from the bar and came to my room and we ended up having sex. i asked him the next day what he was looking for and he told me that he’s not ready for a relationship due to family stuff going on and that he wouldn’t be able to put in as much effort as he would like. when i would invite him over he would decline. except one time my friends and i were drinking. we had a mutual friend there so i invited him. he came for a little bit. when the mutual friend left, i thought we was going to leave too, but he came back and stayed with just my friends and i. he played one more game of beer pong and then ended up leaving. i then noticed that we were number one best friends on snap. the next day we weren’t which hurt. but then i noticed the next day we were back to being number ones and have been for almost two weeks. a couple weeks ago i told him that i was driving to a kickback and he asked if i was in my room. when i said yes, he immediately went to my room and told me not to drink and drive. he could have simply texted me that. we still call each other losers like we did in the beginning. i’m hoping that something may happen next semester but he’s kinda made it clear he doesn’t want anything. but his actions are giving me hope. what do you guys think ? should i wait or get over him ?