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So I met my bf in December of 2019 and have been together ever since. I had my own apartment and he had his and we would visit wash other. I decided I wanted to go back and finish school and needed help at that point just as far as rent wise because I just paid for school in full. We agreed I’d go back, finish then he’d go back and get an addition certification to get higher pay in his field. I moved in June and immediately gave $500 which is half of rent at his place. I found out I was pregnant but also in extreme pain all the time so I went to the ER. It was eptopic. I was back and forth to the ER all June and couldn’t work. Nonetheless he was on board with me keeping my baby and things just didn’t go the way we planned. He only paid rent for July by himself. He received rent relief for the month of August, and September. When August started he broke his leg which was fine because I made enough to cover rent, phone, gas and food by myself being that I was back at work already since August 1st. Just wanted him to heal and get her better all the way since his job is very manual job. Rent relief ended and I paid full rent etc in October. He went back to work October 1st and gets paid 4 times for the month. I said good at least he doesn’t have to feel pressure in paying bills immediately when he got back to work and has 4 weeks to save money. He didn’t. In November I gave him 400 dollars instead of five because I couldn’t do 5 that month. He still says we are struggling badly. In December I just gave him half the rent again and paid our phone bill and grocery bills like normal and he didn’t have his half because he had to buy a used car last minute because he could no longer afford his car payment . Now I had to put school on pause when he broke his leg and was supportive. Took longer but I finally finished late. Now in December I find out I’m 10 weeks pregnant and he wants me to abort. What changed since June till now? I would’ve still been pregnant either way. I am now in a place when I can fully take care of myself independently and my child. I don’t want to abort due to my previous eptopic and this new pregnancy being high risk after. I had an abortion in high school and I bled for almost 3 months straight and lost a lot of weight and I hated myself for that. Grew older, got closer to God and begged him for forgiveness. Now I’m pregnant for the 3rd time naturally without any complications so far 🤞🏽 and my boyfriend still wants me to abort. I’m 27 he’s 36 with a 5 year old son that doesn’t live with us but he’s still an active father. Overall great guy and good to me but his money management skills are terrible. I am mentally prepared to endure my new path alone being that I’m always very blunt and honest with myself. I wouldn’t want to put a burden on him either however I’m thinking health wise I’m done doing things like that. The odds of me getting pregnant naturally were already against me and it still happened and my baby is due on his birthday. Keep in mind I ask where his money goes and he says gas all the time we live in CA. My whole thing is if you afforded your rent and car note by yourself before I moved in what changed? We have no bills together besides phone which I pay. He doesn’t pay any of my personal bills or hospital bills when I had my eptopic I paid for that with my savings when I wasn’t working. He loves being a dad already and I wouldn’t want us to break up over a baby however due to everything I been through I just don’t think abortion is even an option right now. What would you do if you were in a situation and your boyfriend switched up?

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