Is this wrong ??

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Is it wrong for me to want to get a job and have my own money under me incase something ever happens and my husband and I get a divorce? We have 3 toddlers together and I haven’t worked in 5 years he absolutely don’t want me to get a job. He say if something ever happened between us he would help me out. But I have no family or friends support I don’t have my own money or vehicle. Everything is his. So am I wrong for wanting to get a job??

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Either you can get a job or he can set things up in a way that you feel comfortable financial wise such as including you an allowance in your family budget. And u can also be working on a degree from home so u have schooling to start a career if u want.

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Very smart!! IMO

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Absolutely not! Marriage or not you need to be able to support yourself. The idea of women staying at home cooking and cleaning went out in the 50’s. Im a firm believer in having my own no man will ever say I have this and that due to him.

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I mean, IF anything happens your entitled to half of what y’all have in your savings, and with kids you’ll get child support. 
Not saying don’t get a job, but if setting up a private nest age now in the event that something happens is the only reason to get a job I personally wouldn’t do it. Plus that may effect how much you get from him in support and what not. 
I also get why maybe he would he upset; he could be feeling that 1. He’s not enough for you 2. That you’re expecting something to happen. 
Maybe be a tad sensitive to how he may feel and be effected by this. Communication and getting on the same page can make all the difference in a partnership

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He needs to put everything he has in your name so it’s shared. I don’t like where he’s going with this and saying he’d hell you even if you’re not together anymore while he doesn’t put anything under your name. Go get a job and make your money! You can’t EVER!!! depend on someone.

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You’re not wrong. I believe that every woman who wants to work needs to work for their own mental health, sanity and security. Men like this are far too common. The belief that they have ANY SAY over our careers (or dreams outside of being a mother and homemaker) is chauvinistic and wrong. Get that job and show him that he does not own youqq

Is this wrong ??

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