Am I wrong if I ask my nieces and nephews not to play with my kids toys? EDIT
Okay tell me if I am an asshole.
My nieces and nephews are coming over tomorrow night and I don’t want them to play with my sons new toys.
I know this sounds bad- but let me explain. My son is 3, and his toys are really for kids his age.
My nieces and nephews are ages 11-14.
Some background- they came over one day in the fall for my sons birthday and they all hung out in the basement. They wanted to be away from the adults and just hangout. Our basement has a living room and playroom type setup. I figured the cousins could just hangout there and watch tv. Instead they broke my sons little electronic motorcycle, the whole front piece was hanging off, my sons little trampoline was broken, the piece you jump on was ripped from the seam, and he had a little indoor bounce house that was ok, but a few days later it was deflated.
I never told the kids not to play with it because I really didn’t think they would want to. These are really really small things made for toddlers. The bounce house was really small, it could fit maybe two toddlers, the trampoline was really small and had a 50 pound weight limit, and the motorcycle was literally the same size as a tricycle.
I didn’t care about the motorcycle bc my son was legit afraid of it, like refused to ride it, but the trampoline and the bounce house were his favorite things. I am almost positive it was the two boys (both 11) who broke the toys but I don’t know that for sure, bc no one even told us what happened. We didn’t even know anything was broken until after everyone left and we went to clean up.
I was so mad, my husband not so much. He was like well they are crappy and cheaply made- which is true I guess, the trampoline was small, and the bounce house was maybe $50 from Amazon and a lot of people were saying it didn’t last long- but still these are things made for toddlers not almost teenagers.
So anyway, for Christmas my son got a small drum set, a new trampoline and a new bounce house. The bounce house is still in the box, so I am not worried that will break, but I’m worried about the trampoline and the drum. Would I sound like an asshole if I told the kids not to play with them? I really hate to be like that, if the kids were a little younger I wouldn’t mind, but the last time they were here three things were broken. I was thinking about maybe making the basement off limits but the kids always hangout down there. Our house is tiny, so it gets kind of crazy with everyone upstairs. Our house is also too small for the trampoline and drum to be upstairs so that’s not an option either. Would it be bad if I told them not to touch his stuff?
Edit- everyone is telling me to put the toys somewhere else which sounds like a great idea, and if it was possible, that’s what we would do. The reason they are in the basement is because we don’t have room for them in the main living area. My house is really small tho, under 1000 sq feet. We can’t fit the bigger items in our bedrooms, we could potentially in the living room, but not while people are over. If we had room upstairs they would be there but we don’t. So I appreciate all the advice, and people not thinking I’m an asshole lol ❤️
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