Menopause

I did blood work checked for thyroid and Hormones and other test my Dr hasn't called me about my results,so I checked my chart I sent them to my retired ob Dr he said everything was good but it's confirmed I'm menopause, I told him how when I still get high sex drive at times, Last year I was still having periods at times I miss month and start again my last one was October, and I still get cramps like I'm going to start but nothing, Dr said cause I have menopause I'm no longer ovulating, I want to have sex but I can't focus so we stop, is there anything else I could do to continue with out running thoughts, a friend of mine said watch porno but I don't like watching that, and I feel so bad for my husband, any suggestions and please no bad comments,I can't believe I'm menopausal 😢UPDATE DR SAID I WAS PERIMENOUPAUSAL!!! MY LAST AF WAS OCTOBER I STILL HAVEN'T GOTTEN AF😭 BUT I STILL GET BAD AF CRAMPS AND BAD OVULATION CRAMPS ON THE TIMES IM SUPPOSE TO GET AF AND OVULATE,